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A Migraine Intervention

I talk so frequently with friends, family, and acquaintances who (in my non-medical opinion, which should probably be taken with a grain of salt) seem to match the criteria for migraine disease. They describe their pain, their sensitivity to light and sound, their inability to bend over without feeling nauseated.  I try to hold back from my Migraine Girl tendencies to give amateur diagnoses and try to listen as a friend.

But so often the story ends with one of these lines:

“So I took some ibuprofen and waited it out.”

“But I know it’s nothing like what you go through.”

“I’m so tired of these sinus headaches.”

“It doesn’t happen that much. I haven’t mentioned it to my doctor.”

“I get the same headache every afternoon, but I don’t feel like I need to do anything about it.”

Y’ALL. I have a tendency to overstep now and then (especially when it comes to things I’m passionate about or well-versed in, e.g., migraine disease, the book industry, the adorability of my kitten), and it’s my instinct to want to yell out, “YOU HAVE TO TALK TO A DOCTOR.” Or, “There may be a way for you to feel better.” Or “Having a ‘headache’ every single day is not normal.” Or “If you want to vomit and can’t stand to look toward the light you are not in the midst of a tension headache!”

I could go on.

But usually I just hold back. Most people know my role here at and, by extension, can probably guess that I know a fair amount about migraine and headache diseases. So if they want advice, they can ask for it.  I usually can’t resist commenting when I hear entirely erroneous information, but, apart from that, mum’s the word.

Sometimes I am so, so tempted to speak up, though.  I wonder sometimes what I would do if a family member or close friend had migraine disease that suddenly got much worse but wasn’t being addressed correctly. What would I do if a best friend started having [what seems to me] severe episodes that brought her pain and sickness but refused to see a doctor?  Have any of you out there ever staged a migraine intervention? Have you asked a loved one to seek medical help? Did your loved ones ever ask you to see a doctor?

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  • Abhi
    5 years ago

    I know, migraine patients do behave in extremely weird way. My lycopene(roasted tomatoes) with vitamin B prophylaxis is working perfectly for me. I told one migraine patient to try it. Billions eat tomatoes everyday, but he replied that he don’t eat tomatoes because “tomatoes are harmful to health”. Isn’t it extremely weird? I would have called migraine patients as psychotic, but problem is that I am also migraine patient.

  • astrosdiva
    6 years ago

    I am 61 and have had Migraine Disorder since age 11. Since the triptans came out, I have encouraged several Miraingeurs to try Maxalt and/or Zomig, which both help me a great deal. Even though these people describe Migraine symptoms exactly, they say “no” when I suggest they ask their physicians about it. They continue to have periodic Migraines without trying to do anything to help themselves. I don’t understand this attitude at all.

  • Rene'
    6 years ago

    I have begged my grown daughter, who also has migraine disease and is 32, to see a doctor. After her last attack, last week, she promised she would call and make an appointment, but I know she won’t. I even offered to go with her, she still won’t. I think it is because if she gets a diagnosis from a doctor and not just her migraineur mother, then it is real and she will have to deal with it. And she’s not ready to deal with it yet. I get that, I really do, I was an ostrich for many years about my disease before I realized that there really is something wrong with me, it’s not just in my imagination. As I have gotten sicker and developed more symptoms, she is seeing what is happening to her once very vivacious firecracker-of-a-mother. Although I know she is concerned for me and my welfare you know she is also thinking…….”I’m probably going to get like that. Nah, that won’t happen to me, it’ll just go away………”

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