Dreaming of a Symptom-Free Life: MHAM 2014 Blog Challenge: Day 1

Dreaming of a Symptom-Free Life: MHAM 2014 Blog Challenge: Day 1

Today, June 1, 2014, is the first day of 2014 Migraine & Headache Awareness Month. Migraine & Headache Awareness Month (MHAM) is an annual observation in the United States with the goal of building awareness, educating the public and reducing the stigma associated with Migraine, Cluster Headache and other Headache Disorders. The 2014 theme is “Dreaming of a World without Headache and Migraine.”

As in past years, our team of patient writers here at Migraine.com is tackling the Migraine & Headache Awareness Month Blog Challenge prompts. All of the prompts and the instructions for participating can be found here: 2014 Migraine & Headache Awareness Month Blog Challenge | AHMA Blog. I hope some of you will consider blogging along with us as you’re able. If you do, please utilize these hashtags on Twitter, Facebook, Google+, etc: #MHAM #MHAM14 #MHAM14.

The MHAM Blog Challenge prompt for today is: “It’s been said that patients who are able to talk about what they would do without their Headache or Migraine tend to be less depressed and more hopeful. Some patients have lost the ability to dream about their lives without the present taking hold and destroying their ability to dream of something better. ‘What would you do if your dream of a pain and a completely symptom free life, came true?'”

When I became profoundly disabled by Chronic Migraine and no longer able to work at all, let alone in my chosen field of law, I felt I was losing every dream I’d ever had for my life. I was incapacitated by depression and didn’t know how to cope with the loss of my identity. It took many years (and lots of therapy with a wonderful psychotherapist) to learn how to dream new dreams and reenvision my old dreams through a different lens.

I choose not to spend a lot of time thinking about what I’d do if I woke up tomorrow and my life was instantly transformed to a Migraine-free existence. This is mainly because I don’t know if this will ever be my reality. And because I know it’s possible to have an awesome life WITH Migraine Disease, even Chronic Migraine.

I miss my old career as an attorney working for a state legislature. I loved my work. I felt so lucky to have found the right job for me immediately after passing the bar exam. But I’ve learned there are other ways to try to be fulfilled and use my knowledge. Sharing what I’ve learned both about the law and living with Migraine here at Migraine.com and on my personal blog, Somebody Heal Me, is incredibly fulfilling. It’s not the same, but it’s better than stagnating.

As far as my personal dreams and goals, family is of primary importance. I’ve always wanted to be a mother and be able to make my wonderful husband a father. Despite being 35 weeks pregnant with a baby girl today (sorry I’ve been remiss about sharing this will all of you until now!), it still feels surreal that this dream is finally coming true for us after so many setbacks and struggles.

I still have worries about what kind of mother I’ll be able to be given the limits of life with Chronic Migraine. But I know I have an incredible support system and the determination to do the very best I can with the situation as it exists. If I can say so without sounding arrogant, I think our little girl will be much luckier than most kids born into this world, Migraineur mom or not.

I am incredibly blessed in my life. It’s not been the life I envisioned for myself, but it’s still wonderful, fulfilling and special. I’d be missing out on so much if I hadn’t found the tools to learn how to dream again.

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  • Kelly, FlyWithHope
    5 years ago

    Congratulations, Diana!!!!!!! I am so thrilled for you as I know this has been a long journey. You, your DH and your little girl are in my thoughts and prayers. You are going to be a wonderful mom!

  • bluesguy
    5 years ago

    I appreciate your honest and open story of identity lost, and the co-morbid depression that often accompanies Chronic Migraine (or most chronic pain syndromes). I am like you, I too had to give up my career, but in the mental health field. I had graduated with a master’s degree 19 years ago. I had to retire about 4 years ago when the migraines became severe, and seemingly forever life changing. I hope that you have a wonderful experience of bringing a new life into the world. I hope you get all of the support you need to help you be a great Mom.

  • Susan L
    5 years ago

    I would love to participate in the daily blog, but don’t have the computer skills to set it up. However, I too struggle with chronic migraines that became daily 18 months ago, and although I have a solid group of the right docs helping me work up to the dosages of the best meds for me, it has been a horrific journey. Reading here and getting lots of info and opinions and experiences has helped my a lot!

  • Janet
    5 years ago

    Congratulations on the upcoming birth of your baby girl!!

    Blessings
    Janet

  • pennyll1560
    5 years ago

    I would be able to use my Vacation Days from work, for VACATIONS and not use them on “sick” days. I usually use up not only my sick day but also all of my vacation day within a couple months of getting them each year. I would be able to fly without fear of a migraines as soon as I land. Being able to spend my days off WITH my family instead of in bed.

  • reinepapillon
    5 years ago

    I have two little boys that tell everyone “they have to be quiet because mum has a headache” (which makes me cringe but deep down I know it’s incredibly cute), and a very understanding husband that picks up the slack on my down days. It’s not so bad, because of all the LOVE. I don’t know you, but I know you will be ok. 🙂

  • migrainestl
    5 years ago

    It wasn’t until my Doc started asking what kinds of things I used to do that I realized how much I’ve had to give up. I choose happiness & don’t dwell, but I could happily go back to my old life filled w/ such things as music & lots of light!

    My chronic migraines went away at 5mo preg, but came back 3 days after my son was born. It’s not easy, but now 9.5mo later, we’re managing & he’s a super happy li’l boy! I wish you all the best & look forward to mommy posts!

  • Tammy Rome
    5 years ago

    Love your attitude! You will be a great mom. It is possible to raise happy, healthy kids while disabled by migraine. I’m just a hop, skip, and jump away if you need to bend somebody’s ear who has lived it.

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