Migraines & Mojo: How has living with Migraine/Headache Disorders affected your sex life?
Migraines & Sex
*Sigh* is my immediate response when I think about sex these days. Not a happy, isn’t-sex-great? sigh, but an annoyed, frustrated sigh.
After years of the pain, nausea, dizziness, and other physical symptoms of migraine interfering with my sex life, I’m finally well enough to want to be intimate with my husband on a regular basis. Only to have orgasms, a pretty natural side effect of sex, trigger massive migraines for me. Not minor migraine attacks, but the most painful ones I currently experience. The result? My husband and I are afraid to have sex.
Here are some of the coping strategies my husband and I have developed over the years.
- Cuddling may be the most obvious, overstated advice to keep couples connected. That’s because it works. Hold hands while you’re watching TV or spend some time spooning when you’re in bed.
- Talk about it. If migraine is interfering with your sex life, let your partner know he or she isn’t to blame. Let them know you are still interested in sex with them even if your body keeps you from being able to follow through.
- If orgasm is a trigger, engage in sexual activity that won’t lead the migraine-prone partner to having an orgasm. While this isn’t exactly ideal, it does keep you and your partner close.
- Scheduling sex, the time-honored strategy of sex therapists everywhere, often doesn’t work for migraineurs. Be open to having sex whenever the desire arises. Circumstances and especially children can make this difficult, but try to seize the opportunity whenever you can.
- Avoiding sex, while the seemingly easiest or most obvious solution, will interfere with the emotional intimacy between you and your partner. As migraine itself can drive a wedge between couples, this is a particularly dire problem. Keep the physical contact, sexual or not, going and keep talking about your feelings.
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