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Migraine Awareness Month #22: The Game Changer

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The Blue Wedding

My brother in law (BIL) was getting married. The ceremony had to be cancelled several times due to unforeseen complications. However, it was December and the day was finally here. They came all the way from Colorado to have the wedding near family in Missouri. The excitement was palpable.

We drove approximately 4 hours to get to the church in Hubs’ hometown where the wedding was to be held. We had a little time to talk and be with family as we helped set things up for the videotaping of the ceremony and for the reception.

There was a running joke about how BIL hated pink, but his fiancée had made sure there was just a tiny bit of pink in the flowers at the altar, just for him to see. The rest were white and blue — just perfect for a wintertime, romantic evening wedding.

We knew the colors were bright blue when we walked into the church to set up the video cameras for them, but did not truly understand the scope of their love of what I call “computer blue” until later. You know the type — the blue that is everywhere right now on cell phones, anything techy or gadgety, and even on Christmas lights. My son calls this LED blue. I love the color.

It was time for family to be seated. I looked through the windows into the sanctuary and was horrified to find blue lights all down the aisle and at the altar.

You see, those blue lights everybody loves, including me………… are a major Migraine trigger for me.

So, here we are, the wedding is ready to begin, and I take off up the stairs to a dark room because a Migraine is hitting me.

Hubs came up to talk to me and I began sobbing. I was going to have to miss their special day because of the monster in my brain that was ruining things yet again.

BIL and his fianceé had waited so long for this day, and we wanted it to be perfect for them. We had driven all that way and were so excited for them, but no matter how hard we tried to find a way, there was no way I was going to be able to be in the same room with those LED blue lights. I doubted I would even be able to watch the video afterward.

There was talk of turning all the lights off so I could be there, but that just upset me even more. I was depressed. Migraine had already stolen most of my life. Not only was it reminding me of that fact – again – I was NOT going to let it steal something from them too.

This was their wedding and they should have it just the way they wanted it, blue lights and all. I refused to tell them what was wrong. This was their wedding day and nothing should ruin that. I would just have to miss the ceremony.

They didn’t know about my sensitivity, and it had never occurred to me to tell them because it was usually so easy to stay away from those blue lights. I could usually predict where I might see them and avoid them. Who would have thought they would be the center point of the entire wedding?

Something happened that night that I have never quite gotten over…

Hubs talked to SIL and she talked to the fiance’. Every one of those lights was immediately turned off.

I could go on and on about how bad this made me feel and how I refused to walk downstairs. The truth of the matter is that those lights stayed off, even though I begged them through tears to turn them back on.

After I took my meds, Hubs helped me down the stairs despite my lingering aura, where we saw the beautiful bride getting ready to walk down the aisle to become a member of our family. We sat down and watched them get married without those blue lights.

That night was one of the best and the worst for me:

It was the worst, because once again Migraine was hurting other members of my family whom I loved and wanted to protect. I carry a lot of guilt about such things.

It was the best because I will not ever forget the way they showed how much they cared when they sacrificed that part of their most important day, for me.

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