Migraine Awareness Month #25: Through My Childrens’ Eyes

Today’s prompt is designed so that Migraineurs take a moment to consider exactly what their kids think of them and their fight with Migraine disease.

In my case, I decided to go straight to the source itself. I asked my daughter to write me a letter of her thoughts regarding my fight with Migraine which we would share with you. I hope her thoughts help you remember that our children love us no matter what…

Hey, Mom. It’s me…I just wanted to say a little something about living with you for 18 years, and almost every single day of them with health issues. You are one of the strongest people I know, and you are an inspiration to many people—your daughter, myself, one of them.

In my mind I wonder how you can get up every morning and look at the day and say, “I’m going to get through today. I may have a Migraine, but I’m not going to let it keep me down.” This has helped mold me into the person—and fellow Migraineur—that I am today.

I know that it always made you upset when I had a cheerleading or a band event, and you had to tell Dad to leave without you because you were stuck in bed, physically unable to move due to the anomaly that was occurring inside your skull. However, I want to tell you the same thing now that I said every time that this happened, and I want you to believe it:

It’s OK Mom, and I’m not angry. I understand that you are sad, but don’t be. I will be—and still am— thinking of you every time I go to a big event and you’re not able to come with me.

It was enough for me to come home from school every day, and see you smile at me with a “Hello” on your lips as I poked my head through the doorway to let you know that I was home.

Every day throughout my childhood, you made it out to the barns with me and taught me how to ride and train horses, and we even got into a few water fights just because there were enough buckets lying around from cleaning the stall barns for one of us to have a fair chance against whomever got their hands on the garden hose first.

Most of all, I understand and deeply appreciate the effort—even after all these years—that it took to teach me things like responsibility, respect, love, and even understanding…all the while going through the throwes of a jumbled-up vocabulary that was part of your attacks. Unwittingly though it might have occurred, I learned other great things that, while you feel you may have missed out on, you still taught me while laying in a dark room trying whatever new medication the doctors told you should “help” this time. You taught me compassion for those that are hurting, patience, and a whole different species of understanding that, had you been perfectly healthy, I would not comprehend today.

You are the reason I ended up wanting to help others who are going through what you, my brother and I go through on a monthly, weekly, and Heaven forbid, daily basis.

Living with you as you have gone through—and are still going through—the ups and downs of your Migraines has made me who I am, just as they have made you who you are. And for that, I love you…genetic predisposition to Migraines and all. ^-^

With all the love a daughter can offer,


National Migraine Awareness Month is initiated by the National Headache Foundation. The Blogger’s Challenge is initiated by www.FightingHeadacheDisorders.com.

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