Migraine Awareness Month #25: Through My Childrens’ Eyes

Today’s prompt is designed so that Migraineurs take a moment to consider exactly what their kids think of them and their fight with Migraine disease.

In my case, I decided to go straight to the source itself. I asked my daughter to write me a letter of her thoughts regarding my fight with Migraine which we would share with you. I hope her thoughts help you remember that our children love us no matter what…

Hey, Mom. It’s me…I just wanted to say a little something about living with you for 18 years, and almost every single day of them with health issues. You are one of the strongest people I know, and you are an inspiration to many people—your daughter, myself, one of them.

In my mind I wonder how you can get up every morning and look at the day and say, “I’m going to get through today. I may have a Migraine, but I’m not going to let it keep me down.” This has helped mold me into the person—and fellow Migraineur—that I am today.

I know that it always made you upset when I had a cheerleading or a band event, and you had to tell Dad to leave without you because you were stuck in bed, physically unable to move due to the anomaly that was occurring inside your skull. However, I want to tell you the same thing now that I said every time that this happened, and I want you to believe it:

It’s OK Mom, and I’m not angry. I understand that you are sad, but don’t be. I will be—and still am— thinking of you every time I go to a big event and you’re not able to come with me.

It was enough for me to come home from school every day, and see you smile at me with a “Hello” on your lips as I poked my head through the doorway to let you know that I was home.

Every day throughout my childhood, you made it out to the barns with me and taught me how to ride and train horses, and we even got into a few water fights just because there were enough buckets lying around from cleaning the stall barns for one of us to have a fair chance against whomever got their hands on the garden hose first.

Most of all, I understand and deeply appreciate the effort—even after all these years—that it took to teach me things like responsibility, respect, love, and even understanding…all the while going through the throwes of a jumbled-up vocabulary that was part of your attacks. Unwittingly though it might have occurred, I learned other great things that, while you feel you may have missed out on, you still taught me while laying in a dark room trying whatever new medication the doctors told you should “help” this time. You taught me compassion for those that are hurting, patience, and a whole different species of understanding that, had you been perfectly healthy, I would not comprehend today.

You are the reason I ended up wanting to help others who are going through what you, my brother and I go through on a monthly, weekly, and Heaven forbid, daily basis.

Living with you as you have gone through—and are still going through—the ups and downs of your Migraines has made me who I am, just as they have made you who you are. And for that, I love you…genetic predisposition to Migraines and all. ^-^

With all the love a daughter can offer,

Elizabeth

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  • tucker
    7 years ago

    That is very touching. I wonder what my guys will tell me in 5-6 years or so. I remember my mom having severe but rare migraines. She was fun, active, SAHM who did everything with us – scouts, sports, dance, band, school, etc.

    My children have grown up with my migraines since they started when I was pregnant with them but were still only 1-2 times a month until their preschool years. I was a great SAHM at that time – though I’m sure they have no memory of our trips to the Children’s museum, library, park and me playing in and on everything but the swings (motion sickness!) I was a cool mom for a few years! I would say they became chronic about 10 years ago so that’s about all they remember – mom on the couch, mom complaining, mom with a headache, mom nauseated… Also, for the past 2 years, I have been pretty sick with severe chronic nausea, weight loss and severe shortness of breath following a blood clot in my leg (that resulted in a couple trips to a hospital during a summer vacation for lab work) a couple summers ago. I was recently diagnosed with a heart problem (not sure if it’s related). At any rate, my kids have just gotten thrown under the bus b/c I am just a miserable puppy in any kind of hot, humid weather. Never mind that I never want to eat, go anywhere, do anything and pretty much can’t go to their sports events due to work on weekends or the heat (we live in the southeast). So for 2 active 13 yr old boys, they know their mom loves them dearly, but I’m also a big fat party pooper. We’re hoping to take a fun, active (rafting, rock climbing, etc) West VA vacation in August and I hope I’m up for the challenge. I’ve got my mountain of meds and keeping the positive attitude all will go well.

    One of my sons spent a spring/summer with migraines-throwing up, headaches and all. Periactin has all but made them disappear for the last 2 years save for a headache when he’s tired or hasn’t eaten. So I know at one point he felt the compassion. As a newly splunky teen, hmmmm…. The other is a sweet kid, but I know his feelings are really hurt at every baseball game I miss. He even notices when I’m there and don’t cheer!

    So double cheers to your sweet daughter Elizabeth, for her compassion and love and understanding. You have a great family!

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