Migraines Made Me Stronger – Steel Magnolias

Migrane Awareness Month
Today’s prompt/topic for the Migraine and Headache Awareness Month Blog Challenge is: Steel Magnolias: “That which does not kill us makes us stronger”: In what ways are you stronger as a result of living with Migraine or another Headache Disorder?

My father always said that, although it made me a bit more difficult, he was glad I had a strong stubborn streak. That stubborn streak has served me well in dealing with Migraines because being stubborn is part of what kept me from accepting answers that were useless.

There are several ways in which I’m stronger as a result of living with Migraine disease. This applies both to medical issues and life issues.

Medical issues:

  • Doctors and other medical personnel don’t frighten me. Nor do hospitals. I can hold my own, firm in knowing that patients have rights, and I’m in charge of my health and my health care.
  • Living with Migraines and the lack of knowledge and understanding common among so many doctors made me stronger about educating myself and searching out truly good doctors of all kinds. My family doctor welcomes questions; talks WITH me not AT me; and isn’t afraid to say, “I don’t know. Let me find out.” My Migraine specialist is the same way. If he weren’t, we’d part ways, and I’d look for a new Migraine specialist.
  • I can deal with family illnesses and medical emergencies more easily than the rest of my family. It’s not that they don’t bother me; they do, but I’m fine until it’s all over. Then, when everyone is all right, I can deal with my own responses to it.

Life issues:

  • The stigma associated with Migraine has taught me that, ultimately, I have to live with and like myself. If other people can’t accept me, that’s their problem, not mine. People are free to accept me or just go away. No, this still isn’t easy, but it’s doable, even when it applies to family members.
  • Most of the time, I can try to educate clueless people, and just walk away from those who won’t learn.
  • Living with Migraine, especially my chronic periods, has made me more compassionate toward other people.

In what ways are you stronger as a result of living with Migraine? Please post a comment and share with us.

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  • arden
    6 years ago

    Living with migraine has humbled me and taught me restraint. I can not just do what I want, go where I want, eat what I want or ignore the “rules”. Migraine life is bound by a set of rules if one wants to avoid disaster. On a broader scale, so is life in general. I have had much down time to consider these laws of life and respect them.
    Migraine has taught me to value life, with and without migraine. Of course I prefer the migraine free times but I have learned that we are not always blessed no matter how hard we try to overcome the attack. Migraines have been my crucible, my affliction, my tribulation. Everyone has something. So I accept mine and try to learn from it, at least patience, if not complete understanding.
    My migraines always came to an end eventually. I know some are not that way.But this cycle gave me a hope in deep despair and pain. I knew it would be over in time. If I could bear it well I was not a total victim.I still had my choice how to deal. I could look forward to relief. So many times life is the same. We go through hard times and if we endure them well, we are better off.

    During the migraine I have found a strange peace and quiet even though I was ready to chop my head off. I can go to this place which I consider sacred and a source of strength. There is a hand to hold and comfort to receive.It takes faith and willingness to reach out to Holy Ones who truly understand what I am bearing.

    I can relate to another’s pain because I know what its like. This has made me a more patient and compassionate person.
    For the above I can be thankful for migraines though I would not wish them on anyone. They have been my schoolmaster and deepened my perceptions on many levels.

  • Teri-Robert author
    6 years ago

    Arden,
    Thanks for sharing! I love how you think.
    Teri

  • Ellen Schnakenberg
    6 years ago

    We’re so lucky to have that strong side on our side!

  • Teri-Robert author
    6 years ago

    Yes, we are, Ellen!

  • DebbyJ56
    6 years ago

    I have had migraine since I was 5yrs old. I am now 57. I have had chronic daily migraines for 7yrs. I am functional. I push through the pain. I don’t lay in bed. I get dressed every day, I walk my dog. Sometimes I babysit my grandkids. It’s not easy, but I refuse to let this own me. I lost my job, can’t work, seldom drive, but do what I can. I pain is daily and a level#8 most of the time. But I deal. I surround myself with comforts. I still love my life. I have a wonderful husband. Someday hopefully this will end. Hopefully I will not be dead.

  • Teri-Robert author
    6 years ago

    Debby,

    Here’s something I say at times that sounds like what you’ve written – “I have Migraines, but Migraines don’t have me!”

    Thanks for sharing!

    Teri

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