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Mission Impossible: Children & Chronic Migraine

Migrane Awareness Month
Today’s 2013 Migraine & Headache Awareness Month Blog Challenge prompt is: Mission Impossible.

At this point in my life and my journey with Chronic Migraine, starting a family with my husband feels like Mission Impossible. As much as we want kids, the idea also seems crazy. Some days I feel like I can barely take care of myself. How in the world would I care for a child?

On the other hand, I’ve lost so much in my life that mattered a great deal to me due to Chronic Migraine. I’m unwilling to give up the idea of becoming a mother without a fight.

I’ve done all the background work to be as prepared as possible health wise. I have a great ob/gyn. She sent me for a consultation with a perinatologist (an ob/gyn with special expertise in maternal/fetal medicine). He looked over all my medications and treatments and helped us determine what I can and cannot stay on.

While we are trying to conceive I’m not trying any new medications for prevention because those I haven’t already tried wouldn’t be safe for a growing fetus.

If we’re lucky enough to get pregnant, I have absolutely no doubt I’ll be terrified when we get the news. But doesn’t everyone feel that way to a certain extent? Having kids is a big deal. It’s completely life changing. If you’re not at least a little bit afraid of what it will be like you’re probably not being realistic about what you should expect.

What feels like Mission Impossible in your life given the constraints of Migraine and Headache Disorders?

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Comments

  • sail
    6 years ago

    Diana,
    This is a struggle that I can totally relate to. I got married later in life, so I knew that the odds were already somewhat against me, but I had no idea what was in store for me fertility wise because I had always been healthy. I’ve probably had migraines much longer than I knew about, but they were undiagnosed until after I got married, which is when they became out of control. However, I still didn’t want to give up my dream to have one child so my husband and I attempted a pregnancy when I was 41 and it happened very quickly, but I miscarried at close to 9 weeks. I asked my doctor to find out what happened to the “baby” after the D&C was performed and it was discovered that I had a chromosomal abnormality. This abnormality only causes infertility, so it wouldn’t matter if I was 20 years old or 45, I would have lots of miscarriages. So at my age I knew pregnancy was over for me even though I got pregnant again and lost it at 5 weeks. I was very determined, so we moved on to adoption and we finally got our baby girl in February 2013. It took 2 1/2 years.

    It was a journey that I would say is the hardest thing I have every experienced in my life, so my heart goes out to you. Adoption was difficult, because I had to convince our social worker that my health was satisfactory to take care of a child. We don’t have much support with our parents, which is also a challenge. It took 9 months to complete our home study and it was sheer misery because I had to watch other people that already had biological children get through their home study in a month and adopt long before we did.

    But the point is that we got the child we were meant to have and we had a wonderful experience with our adoption attorney. There are some shady adoption agencies out there. The temperament of the particular race of the child we adopted tend to be mild and that has proved true (most of the time) and that is perfect for us. She started sleeping through the night before she was 3 months old. Overall, I would say that caring for her has been easier than I thought it would be. I was scared that I couldn’t handle it also.

    Sorry this is so long, but this is a topic that is so near and dear to my heart. I wish you the very best in your particular journey.

    Blessings,
    Peggy

  • Anny Fyreagle
    6 years ago

    Hi Diana,
    This is such a challenging situation. I totally understand. I was on a panel a few months ago, (I’m in Canada) and of the 5 women in the room, only one decided to have children. It’s a very big decision to make and one that requires a lot of support. It actually surprised me at the time how many other people made the same decision as I did. It take so much courage to do what you are doing and I wish you amazing success.
    Blissings, Anny

  • Nancy Harris Bonk moderator
    6 years ago

    Hi Diana.

    I’ll be keeping my fingers crossed for completion of this mission 🙂

    Nancy

  • body
    6 years ago

    I can’t think of a more heart-rending example of how chronic migraine affects every aspect of our lives. Prayers that you get your wish soon. And, when you do I know from seeing the bed you made for your little kitty, you will be knitting some incredible baby outfits. Maybe Teri will even knit you a few :).

  • Ellen Schnakenberg
    6 years ago

    Thank you so much for sharing such a personal struggle Diana. This is one aspect of having chronic Migraine that really isn’t discussed much, yet I know affects many patients. My fingers and toes are crossed you’ll be getting that amazing news soon!

  • rose
    6 years ago

    I remember so well feeling like I could not have children during my child-bearing years due to migraine. My child-bearing years were some of my worst migraine years. Back then, there was nothing much to take. The triptan drugs had not even been invented yet, so there were only pain pills. Result? My husband and I ended up childless…..that’s what migraine did to me.

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