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Valentines for Migraineurs

Valentines for Migraineurs


Valentines Day. Just the thought of it can trigger a migraine in itself. Chocolate is a trigger for many, as are the scents that often come with a bouquet. Dinner at a noisy restaurant can be a minefield of triggers – wine, loud music, questionable food ingredients. Not to mention the stress that comes with an extortionately high bill.

Then there are relationships. For migraineurs, they can be challenging – some of us are fortunate to have significant others who understand the difficulty of living with migraine, while others still struggle.

While it might be easier to simply pretend February 14th is just another day, we’d like to offer you a challenge: if you were to receive one card this year, what is the one thing you’d like to hear for Valentines Day? Leave your response in the comments.


  • Azhure80
    5 years ago

    I love you. I’m here.

  • JDJ
    5 years ago

    I just want my boyfriend to say:

    “I’m not going to let your migraines scare me away from our relationship.”

  • kateymac
    5 years ago

    I would like my boyfriend’s valentine to say:

    I know you are frustrated over all the things you used to be able to do,
    that you can’t do anymore.
    You say you feel worthless, but you never stopped sharing your
    love and friendship that bring me such peace.
    No matter how sick you are, you are very important to me,
    And I’m so lucky to have you in my life.
    Happy Valentine’s Day

  • Katie M. Golden moderator
    5 years ago

    A few years ago, I gave my boyfriend a card that had 2 pandas on it that said “I know you have a headache, but we’re about to go extinct…just saying.”
    I can’t believe I found that at the store. It’s still on the fridge.

  • 0403
    5 years ago

    I am 57 years old and I suffered migraines even as a child. I was diognosed when 24. I was told most of my life, “a headache, I have headaches too they don’t stop me from working.” They name various activities they are not stopped by with a headache. Obviously they do not have migraines, but only obvious to me. To date still the general feeling toward migraines is that they are just a headache. Doctors do not do much to help this misunderstanding either. You can get an FMLA for migraines, so they are not just another headache.

  • tina gascon
    5 years ago

    Happy Valentines Day! Stay in bed (if you want) I’ll take care of everything for you.
    POOF! Your migraines have been cured!

  • shine4him
    5 years ago

    How about a simple “I love you.” or “Let’s cuddle.”?

    My fiance is wonderful about helping me when I have a migraine, yet not letting that be the focus. I like that he helps me forget about it when I can. I am not my headache. 🙂 And the days when I do end up stuck on the couch, unable to move? It’s the perfect time to snuggle up and rest, because there’s no way I’m going anywhere else! lol

  • Roberta
    5 years ago

    I understand

  • ALW1
    5 years ago

    Here’s a million dollars to go out & seek any & all treatments to cure your migraines!!

  • Willow
    5 years ago

    I would like to get a Valentine telling me that when I have a migraine people understand and that no one is annoyed with me when I am unable to get out of bed 🙂

  • Tim Banish
    5 years ago

    Great comment Jill Remingtohn!

    Wish I could come up with something witty to offer here.
    I already know my wife will tell me the one thing that I want to hear on Valentines Day, “I Love You”. She’s great!

  • Jill Remingtohn
    5 years ago

    Congratulations. Your migraines are healed.

  • marlenerossman
    5 years ago

    Jill, you took the words out of my migraine!
    I’d like to hear, “you will have no more migraines!”

  • Nola
    5 years ago

    I would give a Valentine to my wonderful, supportive husband – thank you for being there for me. I would love to get a Valentine accepting that I am not always able to perform my job (I’m a teacher) but that doesn’t diminish who I am.

  • tinamontgomery
    5 years ago

    If I were to get a Valentine I would like it to say “What can I do to help you?”

  • Elara moon
    5 years ago

    I promise to take a day off from work and help with kids when you get next really bad migraine so you can rest in bed.

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