Examining life through the unwanted lens with migraine
When living with a chronic health condition like migraine, many migraineurs are forced to take a step back and view things in a new light. For better or for worse, your daily behaviors, thoughts and actions have now crossed over on a new path. You can no longer be the “you” that you intended or used to be. In a recent article, our contributor Kerrie Smyres explains it, “I Am No Longer the Person I Was When Migraine Hijacked My Life”. This does not mean giving up or succumbing to this condition, but it’s about acceptance and understanding that it’s imperative to see life through a different lens.
Many of you were gracious enough to comment in response to Kerrie’s article and share your perspectives of life living with migraine. Reading through many of these comments was truly remarkable and inspiring to learn how migraine has helped to ignite a light of positivity and strength which may not have otherwise existed within you. However, for other community members, understandably, acceptance may not be your reality and you have not come to terms with this new “you”. Here is what you all had to share.
“I’m actually a happier person now because I don't care what other people think. Don't get me wrong I hate the migraines and the pain I have to endure, but I try my best to be happy and love the person I am!”
“Would I change my life in a minute to get rid of constant pain and letting people I love down? Yes! But I’d never go back to the way I was. Migraines lessons have been too profound.”
“I am thankful for the things in my life: good food, clean running water, a roof over my head, clothes, family, and FB friends.”
“This chronic, permanent neurological disease was the turning point for a lot of self- reflection and resulting change. There is so much more to me than I ever knew.”
“Grateful for what I have. I am more than my migraine. Even if it does rule my entire life.”
“Migraine has shaped me into a truer, more compassionate and better person.”
“I have learned not to be an obsessive perfectionist and to enjoy life as much as I can.”
“I choose acceptance over despair.”
“I had to learn how to take care of myself and not sweat the small stuff. I am not a perfectionist....I am me.”
“You have to do what is best for you to be able to deal with this migraine life.”
“I’m on my way to this. I am determined to believe...practice practice practice and one day at a time!”
“I see the good it’s done and know I’d be a totally different person and in a totally different place had I remained healthy.”
“I have learned persistence and perseverance skills from migraine that I don’t think I could have otherwise learned.”
“I’ve always been straddling the line between fully accepting that this is my life, now, and refusing to believe that I’ve changed.”
Have not reached acceptance…
“I don't want to accept the person I have had to become due to 5-6 years of worsening, chronic migraines….don't you wish we could protest or go on strike until someone finds a cure?”
“I hate the person I've become. I miss the old me. On good days I see a glimpse of the old me, but that's not very often anymore.”
“ I don't like the new me. I miss the capable, smart, active, social and fun me. Chronic migraine has negatively affected every aspect of my life.”
“There are gifts in acceptance that I look forward to discovering. It’s been very hard to accept.”
“When I look in the mirror the person looking back at me I no longer recognize, this person is so drawn and tired of pain. Wish that person would reappear in that mirror one day the person that was happy, laughing, and content with life..”
“Chronic debilitating migraines changed my life, sapping me of my desire for anything more than the basic necessities.”
In summary, I wanted to highlight a comment that I feel captures the essence of what many of you portrayed within your comments and/or what you are essentially striving and hoping to obtain. Thank you Trena for this touching remark!
How about you? How do you view this unwanted path you are forced to venture through with migraine? Please share your thoughts.
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