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Failure is Part of the Process

It can get so discouraging when looking for the right treatment for migraine. There are hundreds of options to try and not enough time to try them all. When faced with one failure after another, it can seem easier to just give up. For most of us, giving up means that we stop trying to find a way to reduce the number of attacks and simply treat each attack symptomatically.

We don’t want to fail. We long for that one treatment that will finally make all the difference. We dream of that “ah, ha!” moment when everything falls into place and our head is clear for the first time in ages. We resist trying again because we don’t think we can stand the pain of yet another failure.

What if you could change the way you think about those failures? What if I told you that failure is simply one more step in the process that leads to success? Do you think you might be able to embrace that next failure?

Recently I was binge watching some of my favorite shows, when I heard one of the characters say…

“The reason I’m successful is because on the heels of defeat, I start all over again. Failure is part of the process. You don’t know where you’re vulnerable until your fail.”

That hit me hard when I realized that the same is true when seeking an effective treatment for migraine. It doesn’t take any special skills or talents to keep on trying. It just takes the refusal to quit and the commitment to learn from each treatment failure.

Every time we try something that doesn’t work, we learn something new about migraine, about ourselves, about the treatment, and about our doctor. No treatment failure is wasted. Each one unveils something new about the way migraine operates in our individual bodies. By learning these lessons, we are better equipped for the next round.

I challenge you to embrace each new treatment, welcoming success or failure as just one more step toward your ultimate goal: fewer migraine attacks.

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Comments

  • Deb
    3 years ago

    I have to ask..what happens when you just feel like quitting? I too have run the gamit on medications, neurologist, acupuncture, chiropractor, allergist, naturopathic supplements, gluten-free, organic, non GMO diet, and here I am still with migraines every day:( ugh! I don’t want to be a quitter, because I never have been before, in my other life! I was able to keep promises, be reliable, dependable, but most of all, just loved life, now not so much! Any suggestions, did I miss that one person who could help?

  • Tammy Rome author
    3 years ago

    Man, I have been there so many times! Trying to find solutions feels like a never-ending, uphill battle sometimes. Whenever I have gotten to this point, there is one thought that keeps me going. I remind myself that nothing is going to get better if I quit. Migraine attacks will keep happening and probably get worse if I don’t keep trying. I really don’t have any other option. So, if I’m going to have to do it anyway, I may as well fight like hell.

    Keep on fighting. Your answers will come. Be open to new treatment options, have patience and hope. Better days are coming.

  • DonnaFA moderator
    3 years ago

    Hi Deb, I hear your frustration. You didn’t mention if you have seen a headache specialist. If not you may be interested in reading Is It Time For a New Migraine Doctor? to connect with a specialist in your area.

    WE’re glad that you’re here and we’re a;ways here to share information and support. -All Best, Donna (Migraine.com team)

  • ccratty
    3 years ago

    It gets very depressing when multiple treatments fail. I have suffered with migraines for close to 30 years. I have tried many daily preventive drugs. All give me unwanted side effects and no decrease in migraine frequency,symptoms or duration. When my neurologist left the practice that I went to, I just stopped going. What was the purpose? I have recently had a increase in my migraines, I think because I am starting peri-menopause. My hormones have been erratic. I finally made an appoint (at my husband’s urging.) I need to push until I get some results. I owe it to myself and family to get some results. It is nice to hear from others who have struggled for years too. Has anyone had good relief from Depacote?

  • DonnaFA moderator
    3 years ago

    Hi ccratty, we’re glad you’re here. It can be very frustrating when our treatment protocol isn’t proving to be effective. Please let us know how things go with your new doctor.

    We have several articles which discuss Depakote, and you should be able to connect with other members with personal experience. I’d also like to invite you to also visit our Facebook page so that you can pose your question there as well.

    We’re always here to share support and information. -All Best, Donna (Migraine.com team)

  • Luna
    3 years ago

    Might have to sit back and regroup at times but Never Give Up.
    https://www.amazon.com/NEVER-GIVE-Heron-Frog-Shirt/dp/B0032CLYFI

  • DonnaFA moderator
    3 years ago

    Thanks for sharing, Luna! I love this shirt, I sure feel like that frog some days, but boy it feels good when you escape the heron’s mouth. -All Best, Donna (Migraine.com team)

  • Lori
    3 years ago

    Soooo very difficult when suffering for over 40 years without success. And with actual harmful attempts to try to mitigate the pain and depression associated with chronic migraine disease. I’ve just come to the conclusion that Botox isn’t working for me – I had hoped that the 4th round would be different somehow than the first 3 which brought no relief. I’ve tried accupuncture, several nerve blocks, PT, massage, too many drugs to count, some at toxic doses, good sleep hygiene, food elimination diets, multiple doctor searches, and others. If only we had better funding and research for this terrible malady. I go through phases of having the courage and energy to research something new, visit one more doctor, tell my history one more time … it’s a full time job and it’s exhausting. But I’m not through fighting yet!

  • DonnaFA moderator
    3 years ago

    Hi Lori, thanks for being here and sharing your story. It is so frustrating when you do all the things that are supposed to bring relief, or that seem to work so well for others and you’re not feeling any forward momentum.

    You mentioned that you have seen several doctors, I’m wondering if you have seen a headache specialist yet. If not, you may be interested in reading Is It Time For a New Migraine Doctor?, which has resources listing doctors in your area. A migraine journal might keep you from having to go through all the sharing again, just make a copy to share with a new doctor. And if you haven’t kept a journal in the past, maybe a “migraine resume”, just a list of who you’ve seen, what you’ve tried and how it affected you would be helpful and reduce the stress a bit.

    Thanks for being here! -All Best, Donna (Migraine.com team)

  • Tammy Rome author
    3 years ago

    I’m so sorry Botox isn’t working for you. I feel your frustration. With so many options to try and all of them “off label” the trial and error journey gets long and discouraging. I am very hopeful about these new CGRP-blocking drugs that are currently in trials. Maybe you can get into one of those trials?

    https://migraine.com/blog/2015-review-of-research/

  • Chrissy
    3 years ago

    Thank you! I needed this. I’m facing a nerve block on Wednesday and started getting discouraged thinking of all the “trial and error” treatments I’ve tried. Preventatives… abortives… I still have pain 7 days a week. Maybe this will be the one to help me turn the corner.

  • Tammy Rome author
    3 years ago

    That’s the spirit! Keep on trying and never give up. On day you WILL find success.

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