Giving Thanks When It Seems Impossible

Giving Thanks When It Seems Impossible

Living with severe depression and chronic migraine can manifest as a sort of feedback loop of darkness it seems at times. From near daily, debilitating physical pain, to feeling unable to perform tasks because of both physical and psychological limitations, these comorbidities have a way of seriously taking away my happiness some weeks. I try to fight feeling down, but it can be so exhausting just to get through each day, and some days I don’t feel as though there is much room for fighting, beyond treating the pain from migraines and trying to push through the depression and anxiety.

Rough patch

Things have been particularly rough lately. I lost a large part of my income after being sick very often for months, with migraines affecting my work ability around three days a week. It seemed as though I had things under control for awhile, but I took on a lot of responsibility and simultaneously increasingly fell ill often. I have also had to go to urgent care nearly every other week for months with some or other illness: one week it was respiratory infection, another it was shooting muscle pain, and yet another it was for a bacterial infection. Things have been hard, to say the least, and on top of it all I am in the process of meeting with a new neurologist to try to find some better relief for my migraines, which has been scary and has come with its own stressors. With so much darkness seeming to weigh over me currently, I decided it would be beneficial to try to list some things I am thankful for, as a way to try to focus on something other than the pain of migraine, depression, and other physical sicknesses. So here goes:

Brief list of thanks

I am thankful for my caretaker, who is always there for me and is unconditionally helpful in my journey with migraine.

I am thankful for my family, who are loving and caring and who advocate for me always.

I am thankful for Kasha, a delicious fruit seed (toasted buckwheat), that is a wonderful rice substitute, and that can be made quite quickly when I am having a migraine attack.

I am thankful that there are so many seasons of the Next Generation of Star Trek, because it is comforting to watch when I am feeling well enough and helps to take my mind off of pain.

I am thankful that the weather is warming up in my area, allowing me to go outside more, as the sunshine helps with the affects of depression.

I am thankful that I am not alone, and that I am a part of communities where people who experience similar pain and experiences can network and learn from one another, as well as encourage one another.

Trying every day

Even though my list isn’t very long, I find it nice to be able to write down a few things in which I can find joy when things are particularly dark. I know for many who live with migraine, each day is a steep battle. I find that reminding myself that I am not alone, and remembering things that make me happy help me to keep trying every day.

What are some things you are thankful for, that help you get through the pain of migraine or other illnesses? Let’s discuss in the comments?

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  • Luvmyfam22
    10 months ago

    Thank you so much for this article…it has been so inspiring and encouraging! Through my pain, I want to be thankful and conjure up at least one thing to be thankful for to center my thoughts, avoiding the trip to the depression dungeon! A list to refer to will be so helpful!
    I am thankful for the presence of God to get me through this struggle.
    I am thankful for my understanding family and friends who have and continue to travel with me on this journey.
    I am thankful for my sweet dog that makes me laugh and stays by my side when I am in pain.
    I am thankful for the medications that work.
    I am thankful for Migraine.com and all that I have learned and all that is shared!

    Thanks again!!!!

  • Kyky Knight moderator author
    10 months ago

    Luvmyfam22,

    Your list is so encouraging! Awesome to read what wonderful comforts you have and can rely on, thank you so much for sharing! Take good care.

  • rlc25e
    11 months ago

    I am thankful for good days and sunshine to dig in my flowerbeds.
    I am thankful for my dog who is always at my side at home
    I am thankful for my kids who bring me meds and food and icepacks. Who also make jokes about me so we can all laugh at the ridiculousness that comes with migraines.
    I am thankful for my sunglasses

    This was a good idea !

  • Kyky Knight moderator author
    11 months ago

    rlc25e,

    Thank you so much for sharing! Your list made me (and I am sure others, too!) smile. Appreciate you being a part of the community, and glad you have companionship in both your dog and kids, who seem to be very caring. Take care.

  • Guineverre
    11 months ago

    Yesterday I was thankful for a comfortable bed, a quiet, dark room, an ice pack, and most importantly, an abortive that worked (this time)!

  • Joanna Bodner moderator
    11 months ago

    I am so happy to hear that the abortive actually did the trick! Sure that does not happen as much as you need it to! Thanks for being here. -Joanna (Migraine.com Team)

  • MDM
    11 months ago

    Michele, I understand and wish you the very best.The depression you speak of is worse to me than the physical pain and I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. It’s so hard to fathom why some people have to suffer as migraineurs do. (Even as we realize so many have suffering that is worse.)
    Please know that I am thinking of you and all the others who graciously share their experiences on Migraine.com.
    I am thankful for you all.

  • MDM
    11 months ago

    Michele, I understand and wish you the very best.The depression you speak of is worse to me than the physical pain and I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. It’s so hard to fathom why some people have to suffer as migraineurs do. (Even as we realize so many have suffering that is worse.)
    Please know that I am thinking of you and all the others who graciously share their experiences on Migraine.com.
    I am thankful for you, Michele.

  • mbabi1970
    11 months ago

    I feel your pain, agony, depression and anxiety. In so many ways I am both happy to find people like me in this community but also so very sad to know there are at the same time. I have the same struggles as you and had to leave my job 10 years ago and go on disability which has helped a little to get some income. Through my journey I am grateful to have a husband who is a saint and has helped me every step of the way, children who understand and love me unconditionally but have grown up with a mother in bed most days, and a family who after 10 years is finally realizing that chronic migraine is real and debilitating. It’s taken a lot to get here and the road still continues. Thank you for sharing your story and I hope we can all find some relief and peace in the future. Hope is all we have and we cannot give up!! Xo Michele

  • Kyky Knight moderator author
    11 months ago

    Michele,

    Thank you for your kind thoughts, well wishes, and empathy. I am so happy to hear you have a wonderful support network in your family—I know the long road of being understood, so wonderful to hear you all are understanding one another and building together. You words are inspiring! Thank you.

  • Pattisue
    11 months ago

    I am thankful that I have a garden where I can do stuff when it’s not so bad. My husband support and supply the materials when I feel like changing it. I am thankful for a nutri bullet my son’s bought me. I understand what you are saying and deserve all the gratefulness. Keep on keeping on

  • Kyky Knight moderator author
    11 months ago

    Pattisue,

    So glad to hear that you have a great support to help out, and a garden! That sounds serene. Thank you for sharing and take care.

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