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Hey, you.

Yeah, you…the one with the brightness turned way down, hiding behind sunglasses, under that big hat, surrounded in ice packs and trash bins. It’s been three days and that storm in your head is still going strong. Just glancing at the screen burns your eyes, but you are desperate for a glimmer of hope, for just one more hint to make it all go away.

I can feel the hell you’re going through. Outside that darkened room, there are responsibilities, people who depend on you, friends who miss you…a life waiting to be lived. It haunts your migraine-filled dreams, looming over you, shaking its dark finger at you. What mortal sin did you commit this time to awaken the beast that now grips your head? You’ve gone over it in your head a thousand times and can’t think of a single misstep. Like a condemned man wrongly convicted, you protest your innocence. You’ve medicated, hydrated, and meditated and still the beast rages on. Despite your pain, you force yourself to look at the still too bright screen, desperate for an answer that will stop it all.

I see you. I hear your cries. I feel your pain. You believe that medicine and doctors cannot help. You’ve been told “It’s just a headache,“ and “Learn to live with it,” more times than you remember. No one takes you seriously. You feel so alone in the darkness, but you’re not. Darkness feels good to me, too. We can sit here as long as you need. Whatever path you feel you must take, I will travel it with you. When you get lost and can’t find your way, don’t panic. I’ve got a map. When others question your sanity or accuse you of “faking”, don’t lose heart. I believe you and don’t mind telling others to “stuff it” on your behalf.

You’ve come to the right place. Here you will find understanding. You might even learn something new. I guarantee you’ll find hope.

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  • ctaylor
    3 years ago

    Thank you! There is no way I could express the comfort your article gave me. Thank you!

  • rlc25e
    3 years ago

    I agree. Thank you so much!

  • blondejustice
    3 years ago

    It IS such a relief to be reminded there are others who understand completely. My support system is wonderful, but it is impossible to understand this suffering if you have not experienced it. Thank you so much for this post. I also visit often, but rarely comment. I couldn’t NOT let you know how much this resonated with me.

  • CarolineSwing
    3 years ago

    Bless you! How did you know?

    I usually have great support, mostly my parents, but through a strange twist, every one of my supporters is out of town this week. They all need the vacation, so of course, I can’t fault them. ((sigh))

  • JayAnne
    3 years ago

    I have such great support, but they don’t fully understand, and I beat myself up all the time. “What did I do wrong this time.” I thought I was the only one who did this. I guess not. Thank you, thank you for the encouragement and care. Thank you for understanding.

  • Layne23
    3 years ago

    After following this site closely for three years, I finally registered just so I could say Thank You, Tammy, for this article. All of your articles are good and cathartic, but these are the words I needed to hear today. Thank you.

  • CarolineSwing
    3 years ago

    I’ve been a member for a few years, but I have never commented until reading this article. I totally agree with you, Tammy’s articles are great and really hit home. Thank you Tammy!

  • Joanna Bodner moderator
    3 years ago

    Hi thre Layne23,
    I am SO thrilled to see that you registered and have been following our site for so many years now! This is great that her article resonated so well for you.

    We are so happy to now have you “officially’ part of our community…welcome!! Please feel free to reach out anytime! We are always here for support!

    Joanna ( Team)

  • fergie
    3 years ago

    Tammy, thank you doesn’t even come close to the relief I felt reading your words. They said exactly what I was in need of.

  • Douglas
    3 years ago

    Thank you for the affirmation.

  • Leilani Siplon
    3 years ago

    Tammy… Thank you.

  • LadyJ856
    3 years ago

    I don’t have as severe migraines as most to write for, but I read it religiously every day. I refer people to all the time, especially my neurologist who is also a sufferer. Sometimes it gives me info I can use; sometimes it gives me something to share with others; or sometimes, like today, it gives me encouragement. Family members just don’t get it. My boss is allergic to a certain food that give him migraines – find the trigger and cut it out; he doesn’t get it. Well-meaning friends tell me every cure they’ve heard of, not knowing I’ve already looked into it; they don’t get it.

    As in trauma caused mental illness, I’ve learned that my pain is just as great to me as someone else’s is to them. Thank you so much for being there for us – the readers.

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