Treatment of Others and Not Judging
Being raised in the South, my mother always told me to treat others how I would want them to treat me regardless of who they may be in the eyes of the world. This put me in a position to view people differently than most individuals around me. When I worked in the automotive industry, I viewed the men and women who detailed cars for a living just as equally as the men and women who sold those very cars for their pay checks. To be completely honest, I learned more valuable information from those men and women who detailed the cars than I ever did from the so called educated individuals inside the building. This experience and others similar to it have taught me many life lessons that continue to impact me to this day.
Everybody knows better than to judge somebody else, yet most people still do it. I have a friend who is considered disabled by the state and must use a cane but because she is young, people at the grocery stores will give her dirty looks for using one of those battery operated carts. Since they cannot physically see her invisible illness, they deem it not valid. They know absolutely nothing about her but judge anyhow. When I wear my very dark polarized sunglasses into a store or office building, people stare and judge me because they do not have a clue that I have chronic migraines and severe photophobia most days. The comments I tend to receive are always along the lines of how I am trying to look famous or all Hollywood. At this point in my life, such petty comments do not hurt my feelings, they mainly just annoy me because I know if they were to live a day in my life they would be home in bed thinking they were dying. I suppose this is where my article on wanting to sometimes gift a migraine to somebody comes from.
How my experiences with illness have changed me
I am not one to say that I am or ever was better than anybody else about not judging somebody you see on the street. But I do know without a doubt that living most of my life in chronic pain has affected how I look at and interact with other people. I believe personally being judged by others and treated as less than my real value has helped me realize that there are times in life that it is worth taking the extra time to help point somebody in the correct direction or to give them some positive words of encouragement. It happens so rarely in today’s society, that the simplest act could make the biggest impact on somebody else’s life, especially in the world of a child or an elderly person. Being considered sick changes you on a level you really did not know could exist. After my extended hospital stay last year, I learned an entirely new level of desperation, humiliation, and then gratitude for the few individuals who truly showed that they cared. Being completely dependent on somebody else, changes how everything feels and how you view the world. I was lucky and it was only for about a month and a half but other people find themselves in this sort of position for years. Though now because of my experience, I can understand where they are finding themselves, withhold my judgements, and attempt to do my best to brighten their day a little.
Remembering our similarities
In reality, it is easy to judge somebody and it is easy to see somebody who cleans your office building as beneath you. But when everything settles, we are all the same. I am not better than you since I have three degrees because I could bet money that you can still teach me a thing or two. We really have to learn to remember the lesson that my mother taught me as a child, we need to treat other people how we would want them to treat us regardless of who they may be in the eyes of the world.
Are you prone to judging people? If so, do you consider attempting to change that portion of your personality? Has somebody ever been too quick to judge you?
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