I have had migraines for 20 years

I have had migraines since I was in my 30's (now 52) and have been unable to find a doctor who can help me control them. I am now working with a Migraine Specialist since for the past two years in the early months of the year I get a migraine that lasts for months. I am having one now that started in January and they can't seem to stop it. In other months I get 3 to 5 migraines a week. I am starting to wonder if maybe my heart condition is causing my migraines and maybe if they look at PSVT causing migraines they might find some help for me. I have searched the internet but it seems like no one is looking into this. I believe that there must be a link as my heart condition is not under control currently and I have been having episiodes lately.

I am so tired of having migraines and being in pain. I get migraines when the weather changes, with too much stress, and ??? I have worked with a neurologist for 10 years but with no success. Most recently I noticed that my left arm began to tingle one night and then for the next day it felt like a lump of wood. This has happened twice in the past week and I have no idea what it could be.

It doesn't help that my spouse thinks that I am just being lazy and don't want to work. This adds stress to my life when I am already suffering from a migraine and feeling depressed due to not being able to have a normal life. I wish he could understand that I would gladly work than have a migraine for 3 months. He has had a migraine and so I would think he would understand my pain but instead he constantly tells me to get up and go outside. How can I do this when light hurts my eyes and he has seen the doctors report that I have 4% vision in my right eye? He has been with me during doctor visits but he still deserts me and makes nasty comments. How do we educate spouses to the pain we suffer from? How do we make them understand that we not lazy or wanting to not work? I am so depressed that some days I can not get the energy to get out of bed.