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My Dad

My dad was dying from bone cancer in 1976. I watched him die. I was 17 but I stayed by his side for the remaining months of his life. I came to the hospital every day. We shared severe migraines and the conditions that go along with them. I got them from him – but I also got a lot of wonderful things from him. 

There are 2 important facts to this story. 
One day he reached over to me and said he was sorry for giving me this pain. He said it was unbearable to watch me go through the same thing that he battled. Putting myself in his place I would feel pretty bad too. 

The other significant moment came when a doctor came by and said to me ” you should be very proud of your father, he is very brave in the face of all this pain”. My dad looked up and said “I’ve had migraines worse than this”. Put in perspective – he is saying that our migraines are worse than something that eventually killed him. How can that be?

So next time someone accuses you of exaggeration when you are writhig i agony, tell them this story.  My dad was very brave in the face of all this. I loved him very much. I still miss him. I would have done anything to take his place and let him live.

Now my pain is worse than ever. I think about him. I wish I could hold his hand. 

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  • mamaduke
    8 years ago

    Hello Susan,I want to say first how sorry I am to hear about your father. I cannot imagine how difficult it would be to be with a loved one at that time. Unfortunately, I was not told how seriously ill my father was until it was too late to reach him before he died. That was 55 years ago and to this day, I cannot talk about it without tears. If only I could have been there to see him before he died.

    Having had several back surgeries over the years, have wondered how any pain could be worse and yet I thought that bone cancer would be the worst pain.

    I have had these headaches since shortly after an automobile accident in l987. They first started with an opthalmic migraine while recovering from a complicated double fusion. Benadryl and Tylenol 500 has always been effective until this one (I am experiencing now). It started Thursday afternoon and it is now Friday evening and it is still going strong. I am going to have a massage tomorrow morning – a recommendation from a friend. Maybe it will help. I spent today lying in the fetal position, hoping for sleep that would not come.

    This website has been very helpful and informative. I have tried to nail the triggers but can only speculate at this point.

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