A Sufferer Since 13

By kim-slack

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Hi. My name is Kim. I've suffered with migraines, since the age of 13. I was started on midrin with no relief. I've moved on to imitrex injections. Those lasted for awhile, but now in my 40's they seem to have gotten out of control. I take so much medication. I'm surprised I can function on any level.

I have been very fortunate that I have 2 wonderful little boys. During my pregnancies I suffered no migraines whatsoever. The day after each of my sons birth. I had severe migraines. Life has taken a slow turn for the worse. My migraines have escalated to 3-4 days at a time with more then 15 a month. I feel so bad for my boys that they have to suffer with me. I can't make any plans and sometimes I have to cancel. It makes me feel so useless. I have to rely on others to take care of my children. Now I've have Botox and take a ton more medication. I was hoping that they would get better with age but it's only worse.

My only hope is to find support and people that understand. I really am glad I've found this site. Thank you.

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margaret75 Member
Hi Kim, I'm so sorry to hear about your suffering on so many levels. I understand that the pain is not just physical but also emotional when you can't be there for your children. As a mother and a migraine survivor I pray that you find some relief and get your life back. I wish you all the best and my prayers are with you.
1. kim-slack Member
 Thank you so much for your support. As I type this I have woken up with one. One more day at a time.
angie-l Member
Kim thanks for sharing your story. While I read your post it was like you were describing my life. I have had migraines since i was 12 and the only time i have been close to headache free was during my 2 pregnancies. I also have 2 boys who are my world but I cant be the mom that i want to be or that they deserve. I have been out of work since Dec 9 with extreme dizziness nausea fatigue do to constant migraines. so to say i am depressed is an understatement. I am so tired of doctors medicine and tests. Thank you because I dont feel quite as lonely. I pray that you will find some relief. Angie
miltmay33 Member
kim i am very sorry about your migraines. i am 57 now and mine started to be very bad at 40 -- i had headaches a lot before that but i would take tons of tylenol and control them - but at 40 they got much worse -- i was working at the time and continued to work -- i was in a botox trial -- it worked for 6 mos. and i could not believe i had no headaches for 6 entire months -- then bam they were back, then i had abdominal surgery when i was 45 and i woke up the next morning and couldn't even get my head off the pillow and they have been very bad since then --- i have the migraines about half of the month and then daily chronic headaches every other day. i too am on tons of meds. i worked for 26 years at the same job but after that surgery i had to fight to get disability because i could not work anymore. i used to lay on the floor at work on my lunch hour to try to make it through the afternoon and with the meds i am on (that do not really help) i could never work. i too feel useless. i used to have loads of friends but even the really good ones have stopped being very friendly. i plan to do something and most times i have to cancel so they get sick of that and after a while just don't bother with you anymore because they do not understand. you look basically ok so how can you be sick like you say you are. i have no children, but i am lucky to have a very understanding husband who takes everything in stride but i know he must be sick of it as well. i am spending more time in bed than i am sitting up and i just feel like i really am not good for much of anything -- my saving grace is that i do pray a lot and i am willing to keep trying all the concoctions the doctors throw at me in hopes that something will calm them down a bit. but you have come to the right place. everyone here understands and please feel free to vent -- we are lucky to have a place where we can do that because not a lot of people want to listen to it. so try to keep your chin up and i am sending prayers you way. alice in new hampshire
1. angie-l Member
 Alice I will be praying for you. I completely understand about work and good friends who really dont get it. I believe they dont intend to hurt us they just really cannot understand how it takes over your entire life. I actually hate saying the words "I have a migraine" because it feels like people just are rolling their eyes. I have been so depressed because I dont really have anybody to really talk to because Im afraid after years and years of daily headaches or migraines that everyone close to me is over it. Im glad I found this site and finally got the courage to post on here. Your husband sounds like a very caring man. I hooe i didnt ramble too much. Angie from GA
2. Katie M. Golden Moderator
 Sadly, we all know how it feels to have friends drift away. It's not easy to manage the illness and to have much of a social life. All we can do is cherish those who do support us and make sure they know we appreciate it. I thought I'd share this past article about ways to handle our friends who just don't get it. -Katie <a href='http://migraine.com/blog/when-migraines-endanger-our-friendships/' target='_blank'>http://migraine.com/blog/when-migraines-endanger-our-friendships/</a>
marikay62 Member
Kim, you are not alone❤️ like you I've had migraines all my life but it wasn't until I hit pre-menopause about age 46 that mine started to get chronic I lost a job because I missed too many days. For that past four years I've been living in a hell depression chronic headaches migraines 4-5 times a week I don't have any social life I basically live in my bed every day it's hard to do any housework , to go grocery shopping and I felt horrible for my husband. Sometimes he understands and sometimes he gets overwhelmed because he works 50+ hours a week and then has to come home to clean. I'm not the person he married and I hate this life I have. Prayers that you find some sort of relief. Marikay in Ohio
kim-slack Member
Thank you for all your support. It makes me feel less alone. This is day 3 and I'm tired. You've all shown and reminded me that I'm not alone. Again thank you.

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