I need a new self-help book. I've gone through a bunch of books suggesting strategies for managing chronic pain. However, they all eventually say something to the effect of "the only person who can make yourself miserable is you." This is an overused meaningless pile of unproductive bull. I need a pain/nausea/stress management strategy that doesn't implicitly or explicitly blame me for struggling to cope right now. Does anyone have a suggestion for books or strategies?