How My Partner Handles Her Head Pain
Relationships have never come easy for me. As an actor, and overall romantic, I’ve been fueled by media and love portrayals engrossed with perfect moments and happy endings forever. The art of romantic human commitment is almost often on my mind in some form or another. The idea that there’s someone out there who loves you for you, who shares your interests and sense of humor is spectacular. Plus you get to smooch!
Everything isn't always picture perfect
However, reality holds a very different truth. I’m not saying that relationships can’t be picture-perfect, but more often than not, some annoying tendencies seep through.
I’m not coming here to sit here and slag my partner and long-time girlfriend. Nor am I the type to utterly slam my GF into the toilet, but we do have some opposing quirks.
Pain and migraine
As a long-time migraineur, handling migraines and their pain is something that I’m constantly doing. It’s such a big part of my life, both as a writer and contributor for Migraine.com and as a human being who wants his head to feel as good as it can. Maintaining my pain and fighting off my triggers is a daily habit.
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Treating her head pain differently
Though she doesn't have migraine, my partner takes a less careful approach to her own head pain. She’ll eat a ton of sweets and worry about headaches after the fact and when she DOES get a headache… She is incredibly hesitant to take medication. She has a sort of resilience to medicating her pain.
A reliance on drugs was something that her family had frowned on growing up, so, perhaps, that mentality has found a way through to her? I mean if I grew up without meds, I’d probably fight on as long as I could too. However, along my migraine-journey, I take several preventative measures against migraine; such as regulating what I eat, taking relief meds the MOMENT I feel the onset of a migraine, and constantly relieving daily stresses. So when I see somebody I love struggling with what I deal with, all I want to do is to help!
Practicing patience
Yes, I can give my advice in a desperate plea for change, but head pain, like relationships, ranges from person to person. Someone who’s more laxidasical in one respect may be better in another. I mean I’m not perfect and I have a long rap to prove it. My cabinet closing and food sealing habits are far from ideal, but she reminds me and stays by my side regardless. There is a ton of give and take, and sometimes all anyone can do is let them deal with their life as they see fit.
It's different for everyone
Perhaps I’m just jealous of her lack of migraine, so when she does feel some amount of pain, an immediate response is what I want for her! But like I’m saying, nobody is perfect and if the pain goes away on its own, who am I to judge? I want her to feel the best she can at any given moment, but all I can do is control myself, and that I will do.
How does your significant other deal with their pain.? Do they get headaches or migraines? How you stop yourself from shoving Aleve into their face? I’d love to know!
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