LynvjWilson65
"Sometimes its just hard being the evil sister who never visits my dad in Ohio, a 15 hour drive from my home (with stops for meals). I'm tired of explaining, I'm tired of having to say what should be obvious. Some advice consists of cutting my sister off from communication and just ghost her. That is not who I am really and it would just punish my dad who is 88. I have too much going on physically right now to make a trip to Ohio. I can't put my dad through the watching and the worry of having POTS related migraine while at his home. Am I being ridiculous? I talk to my dad at least 3 days a week for over an hour via Facebook Messenger. My adult kids talk to him EVERY single Friday and have for years. Yes it's hard to watch him from a distance. But to put him through it with my multiple syndromes, that just won't do. The man would be a wreck and I would be a wreck trying to put on a brave face. "
, ugh, what a tough situation to be in. Fifteen hours is a long drive for anyone, let alone someone managing various health conditions. Thank goodness for technology that allows for multiple calls and ways to communicate! Please be gentle with yourself. Taking care of yourself is not being ridiculous. Sending you gentle hugs. -- Warmly, Christine (Team Member) Thank you Christine! I have experienced migraines lately when talking about family. It's so weird within minutes of talking about my younger sister I get a wicked headache. It's literally walking on a knife's edge with my younger sister. She's interfered in my life and that of my adult children in ways that I wouldn't dream of doing to her or her adult children. I'm not going to retaliate. "Reminding ourselves that the other person isn't the enemy, just in pain, just scared." a quote I read years ago now. It was part of a journal exercise. My sister has a lot going on in her life and I can't be angry at her but I do know how quickly hurt can turn to anger. My migraines remind me that I really CANNOT afford to be angry. I know many folks have that same issue. what a great quote that you keep in the back of your mind. And, I can not stress enough, good for you for taking care of yourself. It sounds like your migraine occasionally reminds you to take care of yourself too. You're not alone! This community is here for you. -- Warmly, Christine (Team Member) I am just seeing this now. I'm sorry for all that's going on in your family -- one thing that's clear to me is how deeply you love your dad and how hard you're working to make sure he knows it, even from far away. I hear that you are trying to protect him from the harshness of your symptoms. Have you ever talked about this with him directly? Ultimately, this is about you and him, not your sisters or anyone else. Keep doing the best you can. -Melissa, team member