I can’t cope

My chronic migraines are getting to much for me to handle lately. I just can’t cope with it all, trying to hold down a job that I love but constantly ringing in sick and feeling guilty for being off again. The support I get from my parents isn’t brilliant when I do have a migraine attack the postdrome stage completely wipes me off my feet for days, I feel dizzy, weak, drained, irritable, in pain and depressed and they just don’t understand how it makes me feel baring in mind they have seen me have many migraine attacks over the last 10 years and should know the process by now. Instead of resting through the postdrome stage they make me feel so on edge that I’m just lying around. I have tried explaining to them the seriousness of migraines and how low it is making me, I even told them I nearly self harmed to that I got ‘well isn’t that stupid’. I feel like I’m fighting this battle on my own, I don’t know what to do with myself, I feel like I just want to run away or fall asleep and never wake up again so I don’t have to deal with all this I’m only 22 and I can’t see any other way. I know thats the easy way out to just give up but I’m tired of fighting this battle, I’m getting so many bad thoughts in my head. I just can’t cope

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  • Anne
    2 years ago

    I’m so sorry. The postdrome is awful for me, too. You are so strong for continually walking through life, not to mention holding down a job with migraine. Would you parents be open to reading some literature on migraines? It might help them understand or it might not. I know there are several family members who think I’m being dramatic but I’ve had migraines for 36 years now, so I don’t really care what they think anymore.
    I do know that migraines make me feel depressed. I take a beta blocker as a preventative, which is also supposed to help with depression. Not sure if your neurologist has suggested a preventative medication, but I know it cut down the number of migraines I have by half. I also saw a therapist – it’s nice to have a perspective other than your family of what you’re going through.
    It takes a lot of strength to keep going. Think of the people who whine when they get a cold – you’re being hit by truck constantly and still living your life. Don’t give up on yourself. We’re all here for you 🙂

  • Joanna Bodner moderator
    2 years ago

    Dear mbloor,
    I am so happy and would like to commend you that you a have reached out for support and to share your story!! I am so terribly sorry you’re feeling this way. Living with migraine can be extremely isolating and please know you are NEVER alone in feeling this way! Know that you have a whole community behind you here at Migraine.com and we understand what you are going through.

    PLEASE do not give up hope for better days ahead! I’d like to most importantly stress, if you are EVER in an immediate crisis or considering harming yourself, DO NOT hesitate to contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 or you can go online https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ and they have a live chat feature.

    I know if may feel like you have tried everything, but there are over 100+ treatment combinations that may be considered! In fact, this is a sentiment shared by many in our community and a few of our contributors have written about it –

    https://migraine.com/blog/ive-tried-everything-2/

    https://migraine.com/blog/tried-them-all/

    If you don’t mind me asking, have you seen or considered a true headache and migraine specialist? https://migraine.com/blog/why-we-ask-about-your-doctor/ Lastly, I know that I have shared numerous resources with you, but I’d also like to provide you with an article by one of our contributor’s who too has struggled with depression. While we have many articles related to this topic, this one may hopefully really resonate with you – https://migraine.com/blog/breaking-through-the-darkness/

    Again, know we are always here for you and NEVER hesitate to reach out for support. Are you active on Facebook? If so, I’d encourage you to join our page where you can connect with many others living with migraine. https://www.facebook.com/MigraineDotCom/. Again, we are ALL behind you and understand this struggle you are battling.

    Sending you loads of good energy and please always reach out for support. We love hearing from you!
    -Joanna (Migraine.com Team)

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