Dear Me

Have been thinking very much the last few days about my migraines and the identity they force on me. Been extremely touched and inspired by the last few migraine stories I've read about how much sufferers do not want to succumb to being known as "the migraine girl or boy." Hadn't really had an idea how to enter my own story into the mix. I was cleaning out the deep recesses of my closet this morning and found this piece of paper that summed up everything I feel like needs to be said about me and migraines. It was a letter I had written to myself several years ago and need to frame and put in clear view to always remind me.


Dear Me,

I am sick to death of everyone asking me "Do you have a headache?" every five minutes. There is nothing more frustrating to me than my mother/father/friend/teacher saying, "Don't make yourself sick over this."

In one way it's nice to know people care. But on the other hand, I think they assume I always have one or even worse that I AM ONE. So it spawned this letter. I'm going to print it out and look at it every time I feel down about these stupid things.

I get migraines.

But they don't define me.

I am not a migraine!

I am Kelly.

I am a hardworking college student.

I am 1/2 of what I believe to be the greatest love ever known.

I am a big sister and a little sister.

I am a San Francisco Giants fan.

I am an avid reader.

I am Auntie Kiki to the cutest nieces and nephew alive.

I am a surfer.

I am a music lover.

I am a Wii Sports Master.

I am a proud Californian.

I am a summer worshiper.

I am a computer whiz.

I am a Harry Potter fanatic.

I am a follower of Christ.

I am a movie aficionado.

I am a writer.

I am a football enthusiast.

I am dedicated.

I am a best friend.

I am an insomniac.

I am happiest when my head doesn't hurt and people remember all the other things about me.


A few years later I would also like to add that I am a Cum Laude Graduate of English Literature, a librarian who does not think any one on the world has a better job than her, and now the wife of that greatest love ever known (first wedding anniversary next week!)

Should've taken my own advice and printed it out. But I definitely intend to this time. Would LOVE to know all the parts of all of you and what you do consider "defining characteristics" in your lives.

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