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Please Understand.

“Just take an aspirin. We all get headaches”
Every.single.Time.

If it was just that I wouldn’t be rubbing my left temple like crazy as if to erase the pain. I wouldn’t be squinting from the dimmest light.I wouldn’t be throwing my guts up in the toilet..


It is the most difficult thing trying to get people to understand that this ‘invisible’ pain is a little more than irritating. The moment they find out that it’s a migraine I get the “oh, a little over doing it, don’t you think..?”

Apparently universities don’t see this as a huge issue either. Since I actually have to attend lectures no matter how bad the attack is “take an aspirin. I have some if you want, I get them all the time”
No you don’t. You really don’t, cause if you did, you wouldn’t be saying this to me right now. You’d be offering me an eye mask instead

It has become a robotic speech, my explanation that is.
“Its a little more than that. In fact it has other symptoms…And oh you must hear about this aura thing we get.. Oh no no no, I don’t mean the zen type.”

Please understand. When someone tells you that they’re having a migraine attack, try to comfort them, take them to a dark place, oh the relief the darkness provides us with!!
And please don’t underestimate the level of pain they are going through..cause that hurts us. A lot. Thinking that we are over doing our reaction and are just too spoiled to take the pain like other people. Truth is, we are not like other people.

Its a constant battle that we must fight. Its an on going roller coaster of pain and depression and struggle because of the setbacks this chronic nightmare brings upon us.
I for one have gotten used to excusing myself from lectures due to the awful nausea that comes hand in hand with this beast “i’ll go throw up real quick and come back, wont take too long.”

What we ask of you is no hard task. Just please understand.

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Comments

  • Katie M. Golden moderator
    5 years ago

    Ayatulla,
    You may want to consider giving each professor a fact sheet about Migraines to help them understand your situation. Since the University isn’t being helpful, you can only hope that each professor will be understanding.
    http://migraine.com/infographic/8-important-facts-everyone-know-migraine/
    -Katie

  • Ayatulla author
    5 years ago

    first I just wanna thank you for all your responses and your help. truly thank you. I don’t live in the US, and theres nothing here to support my case but the state that Im in during a migraine attack.I have had 4 different doctors confirm that Im not actually faking this to skip lectures and I actually got that nasty response from the clinic after they saw the documentations confirming this. I now resolve to going to each professor individually and explaining it to them. it is a constant and endless fight but I pat myself on the shoulder for being this strong (kinda keeps me going)

    However I do plan on causing a ‘scene’ If I must next fall to get them to finally understand that Im not playing around.

    But no words will express my gratitude for you trying to help out. If I could I’d give you both a hug now, but since its not heres a virtual hug \^_^/

    thank you thank you thank you

  • Sara
    5 years ago

    Ayatulla, I’m sorry you’ve faced ignorance, I know how hurtful it can be. Learning to self-advocate is hard. For example where to go. I had a terrible time with my university’s student health clinics but great experiences with the disability services offices. Jamie is right If you are in the US you are protected by Section 504 of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA). That means that the answer you received is not an acceptable answer. They are required to provide reasonable accommodations based on your needs (once you have provided the proper documentation). My accommodations included adjusted attendance policies/alternative assignments, extended time on assignments, the ability to leave class abruptly without notice, and access to all medications (including injectables) at all times.

  • Sara
    5 years ago

    Hi! Oh I so know your pain. Just finished grad school and all the way through all three degrees I had to know where the closest restroom was to any class and sit near the exit. I recommend you talk with your university’s disability services office. The will require documentation from your neurologist but can help you get documents that help your professors to understand your needs and how to accommodate appropriately.

  • Ayatulla author
    5 years ago

    I tried doing that and you what the university’s clinic response was?
    “This is a chronic problem, you cant expect us to help you every time” I was this close to bursting in tears

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