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A New Year’s Unresolution

Have you made migraine-related resolutions for 2013? Maybe to better track and/or eliminate triggers, get on a consistent sleep schedule,try a new treatment, find a new specialist. . . . If your migraines attacks are bad enough that you visit Migraine.com, the answer is likely resounding “YES!”

After more than a dozen years of making such resolutions, I’m finished. It isn’t that I didn’t follow through with my plans each year; but that my attempts were frequently fruitless. Each time a treatment didn’t work, I felt like a failure. Instead of tying my personal sense of achievement to the efficacy of medications, massage or spinal manipulation, I’m making an unresolution: to recognize I’m doing the best I can.

I constantly obsess over the treatments I could be trying, the medications that might work, the -ists I could see. No matter how many balls I have in the air, they are never enough. I always feel like I should be doing more. While I might theoretically be able to cram in more drugs or doctors, there’s only so time and energy one can devote to migraine — particularly when migraine itself wears you down. This year, I’m going to try to rein in all these (ultimately unhelpful) worries.

Like you, I will probably spend much of the next year trying to reduce the frequency or severity of my migraine attacks. That’s the nature of migraine — if you have it you will do everything you can to have fewer, less painful attacks. My unresolution doesn’t mean giving up on treatment, but giving up on the frustration and sense of failure if one doesn’t work out.

I’m doing the best I can. So are you. Migraine is exhausting. Being sick is hard work. Getting up to face each day can be a monumental success. We are all doing the best we can.

Best wishes to you in the new year.

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Comments

  • chipdooley
    7 years ago

    I was hurt in 92 with a brain injury and i suffer migraines now. I I have been on every know treatment for migraines and if you have really bad ones NO drug or drug combo/cocktail will help besides knock you out so you can sleep through it or a drug hazy and I hate both so i am on narcotic which everyone hears cool lets party dude. I just want to shove them all down there mouths but they would die so I will not do that. When you take pain pills for pain there really is no uforia (?) and it doesn’t not take the pain away it helps you manage some of the pain. No I am not a drug addict I am in pain.
    There are people out there that are not going to like what I am going to say but this is for people that want to live a life with out so much pain and time down. move to a state that has medical marijuana it works so much better than roxicodone, morphine, xanix, soma, perks, and the list goes on and on. Get rid of the poisons and go mother nature it works and it take seconds if you smoke it, eat it like lollipops and brownies good, takes a little longer, use tenture (spray oil) for mussels works really good. Doctor just came out and said it works for MS too so people are realizing pot is not a bad drug or a gateway drug like caffeine. If you don’t believe me take a trip to Co.USA and try some it’s legal there. I am not advocating for pot but I am advocating for pain free life. GOOD LUCK. chat back at you

  • Nancy Harris Bonk moderator
    7 years ago

    Hi Chip,

    I had a TBI in 1996 that changed my life forever. Being in constant pain stinks. Some days it is a two, other days it goes up way higher. Then I get a migraine attack on top of that and it really stinks! I’ve been down the both methadone and oxycontin road before and won’t do that again. As far as “natural” substances, it is still a federal crime even though some states have passed laws….so you take your chances.

  • sanitz
    7 years ago

    Wow I’ve been considering this myself and it’s nice to hear some positive feedback on it. Thanks for you opinion.

  • Monica
    7 years ago

    “I always feel like I should be doing more.” I struggle with this feeling constantly. Thanks for this idea of unresolution. I am doing everything that I can and I should probably give myself more credit 🙂

  • Nancy Harris Bonk moderator
    7 years ago

    Hi Monica,

    You hit the nail right on the head! I struggle with this too. Some days I win, other days not so much. It is important to be kind to oneself!

  • chipdooley
    7 years ago

    I am going to have a major problem with my doctors this year they think I am getting drugs for my back neck leggs because I have a lot of problem with them. So they are going to try too take me off my medicine for my migraines. I have suffered from savior migraine any where from 4 hours to several days with attacks every time i leave my house. i know my triggers but i have 3 kids and not all migraine are created equally some you can fight through with meds. but some just knock me on my arse and I am not doing anything. So this year is going to be a fun one with fighting with doctor who think i don’t do anything but sit at home. when I am at home i will be laying down with a migraine or a migraine hang over which can be just as bad.but with no migraines i am playing volleyball(sand) which is not easy with a in shape 14 year old who will not take it easy on his old man.lol and my two babies 8 and 9 year old daughter and son who i will not take it easy when they want to play baseball, football, cheer and gymnastics hahaha. But they know there are days when i can’t do anything and days where I can just take them but when i am feeling good we will play till it hurts. I am just sick of fight with everyone about my migraines, i can’t wait till i can grow all my medicines and then tell all my DOCTORS to ^%$#& off. sorry about the dirty word but they piss me off most of the time. Thanks for letting me vent now I am going to start another box what every they are and talk about what you start off and I took off a whole different way I think, my head is really foggy right now and I don’t know if i am making since. see ya in the next post :)(: hit my head together

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