The comfort of community

The comfort of community

Last updated: November 2021

When I started this blog many years ago, it was my little secret.  I had fallen out of the habit of writing a diary, opting instead to write long letters to my friends. (Yes, letters that were handwritten and sent in the mail—I used to send and receive at least four letters a week.)  So instead of chronicling my life in a journal, I would tell my friends about what was going on in my life by writing in longhand on stationery.  I wasn’t entirely truthful in those letters, though: I rarely, if ever, mentioned the migraine attacks that were becoming very frequent occurrences in my life.

I decided to look into blogging. At first the main reason to do that rather than keep a journal was because of how much more I could get written if I typed using a computer keyboard instead of using longhand on paper. I created a new email address not associated with my real self at all, created a blog, and then proceeded to write whatever I wanted to about what it was really  like to live with migraine disease. I didn’t try to fill it with feel-good tips, nor did I dispense medical advice I have no right or credentials to share. Instead, I just talked about what it feels like to have this chronic illness. Any time I felt as if I was putting myself out there too much—any time I felt more vulnerable than was comfortable—I would write a drier post citing something I had learned about migraine.

To my utter surprise, people started to read the blog. I had learned statistics about how common migraine was, but, apart from a couple of friends and family members, I had never really talked at length to anyone else with the illness. All of a sudden this whole new world opened up. I felt less isolated. I felt safer. I felt, in a way, at home, surrounding myself with an online community that actually knew what my life was like.

Fast forward to 2014, and I’ve now spent more years with my blog hosted on than I did hosting it independently.  Some of the bloggers I read and admired most in my very early days (namely Kerrie Smyres of The Daily Headache) are now colleagues of mine here at  I am fortunate to be a part of this community where we support one another and encourage each other to take care of ourselves, to explore various treatment options, to give ourselves a break when we’re being too hard on ourselves.

Each day, through conversations in the fora or on the Facebook page or in blog comments, I see more and more migraineurs reaching out to one another.  I see so many comments from people who say things like, “I thought I was the only one!” or “I am so glad I’m not alone.”  Reading things like that makes my heart soar. I am so glad we have found one another.

If you know someone who is suffering from migraine but seems isolated, consider reaching out to him or her. Let him/her know that you, too, have this illness and are there to talk.  You never know whom you’ll touch with just a small gesture of kindness and compassion.

No matter how long you’ve been keeping up with the online migraine community, I want to thank you for making this a safe, welcoming, comforting, and helpful place.  We are all better off because we are in this together.

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