I love this topic! For me I find a few things are vitally important:
Sleep
Time alone and with close family
Not stressing
Eating right
Exercise
For sleep, I have a certain time of night that I turn off all electronics and start to wind down. I find I can't fall asleep if I go from 60mph to 0mph. I allow for about 8-9 hours, because that's what my body needs. On the flip side, if something wakes me up or I have insomnia, I try hard to not stress about it. Nothing's perfect.
Time alone and with close family: Giving myself time to sort through my own thoughts, and also connect and bond with those close to me, is vital. I feel in our busy society, these things can be overlooked. To me they are not to be--they are priorities.
Not stressing--I say it this way instead of "de-stressing." To me, de-stressing implies I allowed myself to get wound up. Stress is definitely inevitable, but I focus on keeping things in perspective and having a steady mood when possible.
Eating right--to me this doesn't have to be fancy or complicated. I simply make sure I am eating fruits and veggies every day and sweets only once in awhile. I try to snack exclusively on fruits and veggies or sometimes some nuts or other lean protein.
Exercise--again, this doesn't have to be complicated or anything special, really. I take a walk every day, do yoga when I feel like I need to stretch, and sometimes I just dance to my favorite music while no one's watching. 😀
I find with all these self-care items it's really just about remembering what's important. Life can pull us in many different directions, and I remind myself, though I may be caught up in the current sometimes, I am steering the ship.
-Lisa