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Migraine = Divorce

Good Morning,

I've had migraine for about 10 years now. I am 61, my husband 65. As we all know, people with migraine are not the most "fun" people in the world. I could go on and on about that, but to cut to the chase, my husband took up cocaine for "fun", and says he wants a divorce because I am no "fun" because of my migraines, and went lashing on with verbal abuse. Mind you, this is a man that I can't get to go for a walk because his legs are too tired after working all day (so maybe I should take up cocaine because it's no "fun" to walk by myself). What if he got hurt working - lost a limb, had a heart attack and was immobile...would he be much fun. No, but I'd stick by his side. I'm just so sad that it is not reciprocal. He is I'm just very depressed, and given that my husband is actually procuring the drugs from our son, I'm in a very dark place. What father encourages their son's drug habit. Our other son is an alcoholic, trying very hard, but my husbands binges triggered him, after a year of sobriety. So I'm reaching out so I don't kill myself. I have two daughters that are helpful, but how can this all get sorted out, much less with migraine on top of it. I babysit fulltime for my daughter, she has me on nanny cam, so I can't "talk" to anyone. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you. -Lisa

  1. Hi , first I just want to say I really appreciate you sharing so openly and honestly about what's going on for you. Being vulnerable and sharing some of these things and feelings can be challenging, and we appreciate that you shared with us here. I can hear what a heart-breaking and difficult time it is for you, and I'm so glad that you've reached out. Managing a chronic condition on top of divorce and family members struggling with addiction or drug use is a lot, please know that our community is here for you. In addition to the support of this community, have you talked with your medical team or a mental health professional about everything that is going on in your life and how it is impacting you emotionally? If not, I would encourage you to do so. Also, if it's an emergency situation that cannot wait for a doctor's visit, please don't hesitate to reach out to the national crisis hotline by calling or texting 988 on your phone, or you can chat them online here, https://chat.988lifeline.org/. Nobody is made to handle everything on their own, and having the support of professionals might help you get through the hardest of it all. And, of course, please don't hesitate to reach out here as well. This community is here for you. Sending you gentle hugs. -- Warmly, Christine (Team Member)

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