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Someone to talk to


I've posted on here before with limited responses but I am truly desperate. I've tried calling suicide hotlines, connecting to chats for support and I need someone to talk to. I've already nearly broken my hand from hitting the wall in a fit of rage caused by a fight that was sparked about money and my inability to communicate to my boyfriend during a migraine. My professional life is on the rocks and I cant handle it anymore.

I've tried every preventative when I had insurance and am so desperate for any relief from my physical & mental pain, I've started drinking heavily. I have no other way to cope. Every day is pain, anxiety and depression. I'm only 28 and have to convince myself not to hurt myself. Im in so much pain, I just want someone to talk to. I cant trust myself and my boyfriend just doesn't get it.

  1. Hi absentminded,

    It's very brave to share your raw, deep emotions - thank you. I know many of us feel, or have felt this way while combating chronic pain. Chronic pain is debilitating, to say the least and makes me cranky and irritable, depressed and anxious, to name just a few. We're here for you and I'd like to share a few things I've found helpful.

    When dealing with anxiety, depression, chronic stress and chronic pain, it's tempting to self medicate with alcohol and/or drugs. Self medication makes everything go away for a while. The problem is the pain, anxiety and depression can come back with a vengeance. It's easy to say find other ways to deal with these issues, but hard to do in practice. One thing I've found VERY helpful is my fantastic counselor who specializes in chronic pain who I've been seeing for years. We've, really I've, been able to work through and continue to work through my chronic pain journey. She's helped me learn how to cope with it and my multiple chronic conditions. Before you say you can't afford it, I can't either. However, there are counselors who work on a sliding scale, pay what you can, as mine does. I pay $20 each visit, every few weeks. Is this something you might consider?

    I get it, I truly do. There was a point in my life where the darkness started to creep in way to often, that's when I reached out for help, as you are.

    Please let me know you are OK and we can continue to chat.

    1. Please let us know you're okay. I know this doesn't mean much, but you aren't alone in this. It can be hard for people to understand when they aren't the ones directly feeling something. But we know how you feel here and I hope that helps your racing mind. I know how you feel, I have some suggestions on how to maybe help and I am always here if you need to talk.

      1. Hello. I've been where you are. I've even tried to hurt myself on several occasions.luckily I was never successful. This is a terrible disease but once you find the right doctor and the right meds it will get a little better. Unfortunately those who don't suffer will never get it but that's ok. Because everyone on here does!! Harming yourself is not the way to fix it. Is there a crisis center you can go to?? Have you tried Medical marijuana?? Is that legal where you are?? That has helped. Or CBD?? Please reach out to anyone here for help we get it.

        1. Hi deedeevee1,

          Thank you for sharing your kind comments and tips with us. It's good to know we're not alone.

          Wishing you a low pain day,

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