Is it possible to enjoy the holidays?

Is it possible to enjoy the holidays and effectively still manage your migraine? Share your advice or tips on ways you have maybe found to navigate through this hectic time!

On the other hand, need a space to vent about the holidays? We are here to lend an ear! Share how you REALLY feel when it comes to migraine management and the holidays.


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  • Deb
    11 months ago

    We were able to be with family on Thanksgiving and I was overjoyed to have one clear day in the midst of many very bad migraine days. On and on it has gone, seemingly never-ending. With barometric pressure and weather changes, the migraines have been nonstop. No Christmas tree or decorations up this year. Too fatigued from dealing with migraines. Nevertheless, I am looking forward to the Christmas holiday. My 94 year old mother is coming to be with us. Hubby recently got home from rehab for a massive stroke. So here we are with Mother coming to help.

    In times like these when we miss out on so much, it would be understandable to despair. O have been there. But I’m determined to stay positive going forward. It is such a simple thing, but I find it helpful to focus on our many blessings instead of grieving our loss.Despite the pain and disabilities that have changed the trajectory of both our lives, we still. have so much to be grateful for. I am thankful for the teams of doctors who recentky saved my husband’s life and who are doing all they can to help us. I am grateful for friends and family who have come at critical times to visit just because they realized we could use a little help and encouragement. I am thankful that my precious mother is so healthy … still driving and going strong. I am blessed to still be in my home, blessed with a kitty that makes me smile and lays beside me on those many treacherous days. I am thankful for every good, clear day. I cling to each one as long as it lasts. I choose to celebrate the holidays to the extent I am able … and if I am not able, to remember there is still hope for a better tomorrow.

    My heart goes out to those who are in despair and who have lost hope. Pain wears us down to that dark place. My hope and prayer for all of you in that dark place right now is that you will find some relief and treatment that will be more effective. I pray you will be granted the joy of a clear, pain free day with family and friends this Christmas, and that your hope for more clear days will be restored and realized. Blessings to you and yours.

  • Sherrell
    12 months ago

    I intend to enjoy the holidays! I know my triggers and plan to avoid them whenever possible. One thing I do is that I drive to events so I don’t get trapped anywhere. I bring my emergency meds with me ALWAYS so I can catch a migraine as it is creeping up. I bring foods with me that I know are safe. I am cautious about smoke, candles, and other scents and have no problem asking a host if i can blow out candles that irritate me. Some days are better than others, but I refuse to allow this disease to rule me when there are things I can control.

  • Bskuhl
    12 months ago

    Nobody is understanding. They all think I should just toughen up and bear it. Friends, family and work. Especially those who “brag” they have never missed a day or work. Those guys make me want to puke. If they had ANY consideration, they would stay home when they are sick so I don’t catch their plague and subsiquently miss work.

  • Bskuhl
    12 months ago

    I long for the old days when my healthcare and migraines were treated by my doctor. Not the insurance company nor the government. When pain was treated not brushed off.when you could go to the drug store and buy whatever you needed. I’m really tired of justifying my pain. In tired of being treated like a criminal or a faker or even a child.

  • Luna
    12 months ago

    I understand the hopelessness, despair and grief one goes through as it seems that loss is our lot in life. I have done my grieving and realize that it is really just under the surface but I will not let it take over my life for even an hour. I have certain music to play when it wants to surface, distraction is key. I look at it as just a chemical imbalance due to whatever weird wave is going through my brain at the moment. Go through any grieving one has to do for a short time but don’t let it take over. I am over 70, live alone, really don’t have anyone, and will only drive when I feel competent enough and never after dark. My neighbors will help if necessary but I won’t burden them. May really need them someday. The weather has become very unstable with waves of storms so that means the barometric pressure rising and falling continuously. It takes a lot of courage to live our lives. When “the feelings” really get too much I scream and that makes me laugh because of the looks my cats give me.

  • Luna
    12 months ago

    Oh holidays. Forget it. Too far to drive to be miserable.

  • kateymac
    12 months ago

    I was hoping for a question like this.
    I have no tips or tricks. I’m just hoping to find support if there are others feeling as I do; and vice versa.
    For ME, over the years, it has become less & less possible to even ATTEND holidays. My migraines became daily 16years ago. For several years I could make it to some holidays but not all. If I went, I had good plans: bring ear plugs; arrange in advance to have a bedroom I could rest in if needed; arrange for an early ride home if needed; take a lot of pictures – thus hiding behind my camera to avoid the head-pain of speaking; moving around from noisy rooms to quieter ones, as needed…

    These things help a lot IF I CAN GO AT ALL. That’s what has changed over time. I just missed my umpteenth Thanksgiving gathering. That was Thursday, now it’s Monday. I’m still so depressed that I can’t leave my apartment.

    My family is F – U – N : FUN! Our parties & holidays are loving and hilarious – full of story telling, great laughs, lots of hugs, good talks, appreciation, and joy. Sure, they have imperfect moments, imperfect occasions;, but they’re generally great and I HATE to keep missing them.

    It’s been going on for so long that, sometimes, I can sort of take it in stride. This year, however, it is hitting me like a brick wall. … and a sinkhole. ….and a tidal wave. …and,.. and. ..and….. …

    I’ve given up. I’m not even trying to .. shower, get out, call for support, nothing. At first that was largely, perhaps, prodrome; but now it’s just plain sadness & grief. It’s been so long, but the grief doesn’t stop, because the hits keep coming. I’m so sad, and I’m so angry, that I have to give up so much of my because of this illness. Also, I’m very afraid that it will never get better. My family has continued to have all of the usual parties, holidays, weddings, graduations, and other occasions – year after year. They are ALWAYS supportive and hoping to find ways to help me be a part of things. But I feel like life moves on out there while I live in a stupid bubble where it all stands still and I can’t touch life. Can’t touch holidays.
    Kate

  • sbrownell1
    12 months ago

    I’ve been there. I’m sure many of us have.

    Hot and cold compresses, ice water, luke warm water.
    Sitting in the shower crying..sometimes it helps for a few minutes.

    Nothing over the counter works for mine.
    The Imitrix crap has never worked and is nasty….make me feel like a 50 pound weight is on my chest.

    A mouth guard—nope but I will try a new style one just to grasp at straws.

    The ER’s think I’m a drug seeker. I have to call my nurse hotline advocate and tell them which er I’m going to just to NOT be treated like a street walker junkie and sometimes that wont work.

    Once one starts….well. forget it. I’m in it for 96+ hours and then 1-2 days of hangover like symptoms due to the PAIN my body has been through.
    My wife is in awe sometimes.

    To keep my job I have to wear prescription sun glasses to see the computer screen so I can work.

    It’s a real nightmare

    So, your not alone.
    I hope you feel better. My first one was at ten years old that I can remember.
    My mom said I have her headaches…So 1/2 a century later its been hell.

    Yoga, walk, deep breathing, soft classical easy music. Low lights in the house…..Amazing or what!

    When I feel good I’m great. I can go to a concert or some other event and all will be well and then all of a sudden, It might be a sound or a smell and I will see a strange AURA glow and then i feel it in the pit of my stomach and I know I’m back for another 96 hours of hell.

    I diet right, TRY to sleep right but work is extremely busy these past few years.

    I’m on Adderral now for ADD and that seems to help with lessend frequency of the Chronic Migraine.

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