Migraines and My Loving Wife and Caregiver!!

I get very emotional and cry for those who suffer with migraines throughout their lives, ones who suffer every single day, and I cry with joy for those who have endured migraines and then were completely healed–it is something to be very happy about if our pain is ever completely gone!

I have endured migraines since I was 3 years old–I will be 48 this September. It looks like the cause of my migraines are related to a cerebral AVM that I was diagnosed with in 2005. I have seen several neurosurgeons, and I will seek medical testing again in the next few months–there are only three options for treating the AVM, and they are all invasive. At this time, I am not seeking this type of treatment.

As many of you can relate to, I deal with many symptoms along with the intense head pain, such as, intense nausea and vomiting, dizziness, achiness, cold spells, shaky legs, blurred vision and extreme tiredness due to losing about 4-5 hours of sleep with each migraine–I have suffered with 5+ migraines every week for the past four years.

I am so very thankful that my wife is truly loving and shows a very rare level of compassion–I did not want her to have to take care of my needs at my age, but she has always been willing–isn’t that what a committed marriage and loving couple should be willing to do for each other? We all should, but many of us have difficulty finding that special person–a friend, family member, or spouse–we all need that level of care when we are experiencing this type of pain–it is a true disease, just as diabetes is, or cardiovascular disease, or mental health issues–it is no less severe!!

My wife has a pure and understanding mindset, and she does not question the pain or the symptoms along with it, but she asks what she can do, and she does it, and she continues to do it. We have cried together over how it affects our lives together, and how we function with others–we do have a loving family and group of friends, but even many of them have denied my pain, and some have even said it was psychosomatic–that really digs deep and is unfair to anyone that suffers pain!

I want to encourage everyone that suffers with pain that there are wonderful and loving people that will want to care for you and be involved in your life–even if you have had many bad experiences where people have not believed that you had the level of pain that you said, or are blatantly negligent of your needs. There are always those people who will truly respect and love you, and realize that it is not the disease that defines who you are–BUT–you do need understanding and the willingness to help you in whatever way they can.

There is nothing more encouraging and inspiring than to have a loving person in your life, and to take care of you as your needs increase. My migraines have not lessened in frequency or severity, but my wife has not turned away from the pain that I suffer, but she has endured the pain right there with me -despite the fact that she works over 40 hours per week and takes care of the daily chores in our home.

We pray that all of you seek the love of your family and friends, and hope that you gain encouragement in dealing with migraines, which will only help with the physical and psychological effects of this dreaded disease.

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  • slhart
    6 years ago

    Thanks for sharing your story.
    I have suffered migraines for about 30 years and the last 12 years they have been chronic daily migraine. My hubby is my night in shinning armor. He takes good care of me and he gives me my migraine IM meds when I need them. His only training was in the doctor’s office practicing on an orange ((smile)) I don’t know how I would manage without him by my side.
    Wishing you and all migraine sufferers the best…..

  • Tim Banish
    6 years ago

    Great story. I have a great wife too who does quite a bit to help me when a migraine strikes. You are correct that a couple has to be there for each other. After her accident a few years back she was getting migraines so she knows the pain. Thankfully they have subsided for the most part for her, and yes I did help her as much as I could while she was having them.

  • Dave La Ravia author
    6 years ago

    Hello there Tim–

    Thanks so much for commenting, and your life story can be encouraging for so many! When one or both have had some chronic pain, there truly is a greater understanding of what each goes through, and it strengthens the compassion of each other and others that we deal with every day–there is so much suffering in our families, with our co-workers, friends and so on–we all need someone for encouragement, love and support.

    So glad that your wife does not have that pain any more–how often do you suffer from migraines? Tim, my wife and I truly believe in the healing from God, so if you do not mind, I would like to pray for your relief and the strength to continue enduring this pain if you are not healed. I hate to see people suffer!

    Please take care and very good talking to you. Respond back if you can, and hope you find relief as soon as possible. Have a great day–

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