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  • By absentminded

    Hi,

    I’ve posted on here before with limited responses but I am truly desperate. I’ve tried calling suicide hotlines, connecting to chats for support and I need someone to talk to. I’ve already nearly broken my hand from hitting the wall in a fit of rage caused by a fight that was sparked about money and my inability to communicate to my boyfriend during a migraine. My professional life is on the rocks and I cant handle it anymore.

    I’ve tried every preventative when I had insurance and am so desperate for any relief from my physical & mental pain, I’ve started drinking heavily. I have no other way to cope. Every day is pain, anxiety and depression. I’m only 28 and have to convince myself not to hurt myself. Im in so much pain, I just want someone to talk to. I cant trust myself and my boyfriend just doesn’t get it.

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  • By Nancy Harris Bonk Moderator

    Hi absentminded,

    It’s very brave to share your raw, deep emotions – thank you. I know many of us feel, or have felt this way while combating chronic pain. Chronic pain is debilitating, to say the least and makes me cranky and irritable, depressed and anxious, to name just a few. We’re here for you and I’d like to share a few things I’ve found helpful.

    When dealing with anxiety, depression, chronic stress and chronic pain, it’s tempting to self medicate with alcohol and/or drugs. Self medication makes everything go away for a while. The problem is the pain, anxiety and depression can come back with a vengeance. It’s easy to say find other ways to deal with these issues, but hard to do in practice. One thing I’ve found VERY helpful is my fantastic counselor who specializes in chronic pain who I’ve been seeing for years. We’ve, really I’ve, been able to work through and continue to work through my chronic pain journey. She’s helped me learn how to cope with it and my multiple chronic conditions. Before you say you can’t afford it, I can’t either. However, there are counselors who work on a sliding scale, pay what you can, as mine does. I pay $20 each visit, every few weeks. Is this something you might consider?

    I get it, I truly do. There was a point in my life where the darkness started to creep in way to often, that’s when I reached out for help, as you are.

    Please let me know you are OK and we can continue to chat.
    Nancy

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