Cry for help

Greetings - this past summer was a doozy as the weather was off the charts, and I pretty much had/have a migraine or bad headache every day. My husband has severe ADHD and will not even begin to admit it (except in the form of an excuse), much less treat it. So, he goes looking for his hunting stuff. Immediately, can't find it, I must have put it in the attic...no, it was down in his garage room all along, but he discovered my "I'll get to it later" pile going up to the attic, and thus began a tirade of calling me a hoarder, lazy, etc. OK, all summer I've been in agony. And...I did get alot done. Helped one son with recovery by taking him to every and many appointments every day, long dog walks, etc. And...we don't have a maid, or anyone to do our laundry, so...I'm pretty sure I did all that plus the cooking. We had an aging cat that peed on everything, once a day (we put her down last week finally, so I'm "freed up" LOL) Not to mention, we can't park our cars in the garage because my husband has it packed to the gils. You can only park in half the driveway because the garage spills over. We look like a junkyard with half finished projects that spill out from the huge shed he has (size of a small house). We live in an older home, with minimal storage and closets. However, he gets on the phone and calls all our kids and complains about me, calls me a hoarder, etc. then I get phone calls from them telling me to stop everything and clean that attic out, sell everything asap, etc. My one daughter just had a baby and is so sensitive right now, so she starts freaking out on me. Don't see the baby, clean up your attic and sell as much as you can asap. Say what?
I have nowhere to put all our seasonal clothes and bedding, but my husband has everything under the sun. Not fair. So, my migraine kicks in full throttle as this is a totally one-sided, stupid situation. As my husband gets older (65, I'm 60), this has just gotten worse. No one in my family understands that every day, I just cope with pain. I've tried everything, as I know you can all understand. This discussion does not have anything helpful for anyone else, but I'm just reaching out as I've hit a dead end. Dr. wants me to take Effoxer, I said no because of the side effects. I can't change my family, and I do love them, but ganging up on me like this, finding any fault they can, has me a nervous wreck and thus...huge migraine. If I would have broken my leg over the summer, I would have had an excuse, but because our pain is invisable, we are treated so badly. Can anyone else relate? Any holistic, non-divorce advice, and please no therapy. Thank you in advance. -Lisa