Learning from a mistake - speak up!

Earlier this week, I complained because "no one understood". Now that the migraine subsided (do we ever think rationally when we have one?), I realize that going forth I will speak up. How do "they" know if I don't tell them. "I'm sorry I can't help you clean, run errands, and do dinner, I feel a migraine coming on". I'll be happy to help you another time. I/you can go so far as to say that "you know if I mitigate these symtoms early, I can manage the timeframe much better". (I had that migraine for a week!). Proper care, I can knock it out in a couple days. I try to hard to please. I need serious help in that area. I need to remind myself that by "not pleasing" sometimes I am in fact helping them as they can go about their day, and find alternatives to my help. (Instead of me laying on the floor in pain and almost puking in their car). It is very hard at the time. Easy to say now that I feel good. I think I need to tatoo it on my hand! Just a tad bit of advice as we go along this migraine journey together, thank you for all your support my fellow warriors! -Lisa