Mental Health Crosses Migraine Health-Hopefully this goes back to the Migraine People
At what point after 30+ years and after trying the newest meds (the CGRP meds) and having those fail on you as well, do you just realistically and logically give up? How does that work? How can you ask for palliative care and will they take you? I am barely able to work every day. My relationship is held together with the $1.25 Store Duct Tape (not very well). I am off on FMLA last week and this week. They have put me on some antidepressants again, but I was maxed out before, and physical pain and grief from the life you could have had over-rides all of that-been on everything. I cannot pretend.
So, it's not like a hospice situation. No one believes you that it is disability. You can sometimes get it for work/job. They will help push it through.
Then what? Move out of the city you love to somewhere you can actually afford but have 0 friends, no supports, no volunteer opportunities to meet like-minded people, no potential meeting of a future like-minded mate (because mine will have the papers ready if I give up).
Ok, then what? There's no compassionate.-I can't think of the word for it but death here. You'll land yourself on TV fighting for it.
Where do I go? How do I get there? Do I have anyone else go? How depressing? Who'd and why"d any anyone want to witness that.
I am not mentally ill. Mentally ill would be seeing unicorns, sunshine, rainbows, and cures. NONE of these things exist for me right now. So, what should I do? Someone said Canada said had compassionate death. I don't want to leave my spouse, but surely, they'd be happier with someone who was more positive and wasn't in pain every single day. I mean a 567/10 on the easy day and a 8910/10 on the impossible days. What say you? This, for me, isn't about religion, any childhood trauma, etc.
Hi
. Thanks for trusting us enough to be open here. It sounds like you are managing a lot. Please know that you’re not alone in feeling the physical and emotional pain of living with a debilitating condition like chronic migraine. Most people here are chronic as well.
While we aren’t professional counselors and aren’t able to offer that kind of care, we do have some resources that might be helpful to you. This forum was started by another community member sharing similar feelings:https://migraine.com/forums/do-you-ever-feel-like-giving-up.
You deserve all the support you can get - both online and in person. Do you feel like your doctor is supportive? Have you ever worked with a therapist? For me, therapy provides the space I need to blow off steam and sort through my feelings, plus learn coping strategies. I'm also on medication, though I recognize everyone is different in how they respond to meds.
Just in case you may ever need it, the 988 crisis lifeline can be a great support, even if you just need someone to listen without judgement. You can call 988 or chat with them online: https://chat.988lifeline.org. Sometimes being able to talk through these feelings with another person in real time can be helpful, especially if it's at an odd time, like late at night.
I hope some of these resources are useful. Everyone has their own strategies for coping, and I'd say the vast majority of people here have wanted to quit, too. We are here for you. Sending hugs to you today. -Melissa, team member
