I am concerned with the symptoms. Others are concerned with the outcomes of my symptoms (in other words, actions).
This is the disparity where the clash happens. We are not on the same page.
What goes on inside me (the symptoms) is something only I feel. Others don’t. It’s invisible to them. No wonder they find my symptoms incredible and hard to digest.
What goes on outside of me (the actions) is something that is evident to others. No wonder it leads many to think that’s what I am. I am only my actions, not my symptoms. My personality is evident from my actions. But they miss the whole picture. My personality is driven by my symptoms. How am I supposed to put this simple fact across without making it sound like I am using my chronic illness as an excuse for let’s say, my irritation for example? How can I expect someone to tolerate my irritation from time to time and ignore it as a derivative of my illness? If this illness is not easy for me, I understand it’s not easy for others to accept as well. This doesn’t give others the right to call me a liar, an exaggerator, a sympathy seeker, an attention seeker, and whatnot.