hi, all. New to this site and I’ve found some great info on here. I’ve just had a horrible day and not for the first time because my self employed parter won’t take a day off work to look after our kids 8months and 3 when I have an attack. I’ve tried to explain but he dosent seem to get it that I absolutely have to go and sleep in a dark quiet room on my own. By the time the attack has started I can barely put a sentence together, and I don’t really think I should have to beg him, surely he should know that if I’m hiding under the duvet and communicating in grunts I’m in a bad way.
I don’t have any family nearby, luckily today I got a friend to come over in the afternoon and take the kids outside while I slept but this morning, I was just passed out, the baby could have got into anything, then I passed out again feeding her and woke to find my son had soiled himself some time ago and was sat in his own mess.
I just find it impossible to assert myself when I’m having an attack, especially as I know he would make a huge fuss if he had to cancel jobs, and I just can’t deal with that when I’ve got a migraine.
Has anybody else got through to their partner how utterly debilitating it is to be left caring for kids when you can’t care for yourself?