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Why do we seem so withdrawn?

This is a video you can share with close family and friends to explain why we may appear withdrawn or not ourselves when we are dealing with migraine. It was inspired by Amanda Workman’s interview with her sister.


It’s important to remember there are so many factors that can cause us to retreat from the world. As I mentioned in the video our symptoms, triggers, treatments, emotions, and the fact that we worry that you don’t understand all come into play. We know it can be frustrating for you, so thank you for taking the time to listen to this video. Thanks especially to those of you who are our caregivers.

To read more statistics about how migraine affects us, check out our 2016 Migraine in America Survey Results.

This article represents the opinions, thoughts, and experiences of the author; none of this content has been paid for by any advertiser. The team does not recommend or endorse any products or treatments discussed herein. Learn more about how we maintain editorial integrity here.


  • denverdoll
    2 years ago

    Thank you for sharing this. Very informative!

  • chaselife
    3 years ago

    Lisa, thank you so much for doing this post.

  • Amanda Workman moderator
    3 years ago

    Shade –
    I also appreciated her video and I really hope it can impact some of those family members that just dont understand what we are facing!
    Amanda Workman ( Moderator & Contributor)

  • deap3
    3 years ago

    Since I am no longer allowed to have a Rx for #10 Vicodin 5 mg for lifelong intractable migraines (new state opioid law) that I simply cannot get under control using other methods, I’ve mentioned my pain to my out of state daughter several times. Instead of being supportive she belittled me for “always talking about your pain (an exaggeration)”. She insinuated I had a drug issue and needed help. I hardly thing approximately #20 Vicodin for an entire year is a “problem”. It was probably the most hurtful thing anyone has ever said to me but that it came from a family member was extremely painful. Since that day I don’t mention how I feel to anyone. People don’t realize the effect cruel or insensitive words can have on a person.

  • Amanda Workman moderator
    3 years ago

    Deap3 –
    Unfortunately I can relate.My family decided I needed an intervention even though they knew nothing about the condition or what medications I was / was not taking. Luckily for me, my husband put them in their place promptly. You are very correct, the people who do not have an idea about migraines much less chronic migraines have no clue about the effects their words can have on us. I am so sorry your daughter acted this way. Experiences like these are why so many of us use the pretend “I am okay.” Please know we are always here for you.
    Amanda Workman ( Moderator & Contributor)

  • DonnaFA moderator
    3 years ago

    Hi deap3. I’m so sorry to hear that your daughter is not being empathetic. It’s difficult hearing uncaring things from the people close to us, much less from our children. Please know that we are here for you, to share understanding, support and to listen when you need a friendly ear. -Warmly, Donna ( team)

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