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Feeling of Blackmail

So my main doctor told me at the last appointment that if I didn't take this new medication that he wanted me to take that he couldn't help me and sent me to another doctor for a second opinion. I went to see this other doctor yesterday and she told me that she wouldn't help me in any way unless I took the medication. And if I did have side effects she told me I would just have to live with them and they would just keep increasing my dose to stop the migraines. I asked this doctor if we could test/look at my digestive system to see if I had Chron's or IBS (Both really common in my family) I told her I felt like what I was eating was playing a big role in my migraines. She told me it wasn't possible and I would have to go to a specialist if I wanted help with that, and again she tried to pushed the medication. The same medication I have told both doctors I didn't want to take. She told me it was my only option and I had to pick between the migraines or the side effects. I told her again I didn't want that. And she pretty much walked out of the room. I feel so lost in the care of my migraine management and so lost as a person.

  1. Prings,
    That is incredibly unacceptable!! No doctor should ever treat you like that! Wow, that's awful.
    Clearly you need a new doctor. Food can absolutely be a cause of Migraines. And when you expressed concern about being on certain meds, they should have given you other more natural options. Here's an article of different natural options:

    You should try to see a headache specialist. This is a neurologist who only deals with Migraine patients. They are well equipped to work with you on different medications and/or natural ways to manage your Migraines. Here's more info on Headache Specialists:

    Also, there can be a gut/brain connection. A neuro won't be able to run the tests you mentioned, so you should find a gastroenterologist to look into those issues. Test results can be sent to your headache specialist who can see if anything there is causing your Migraines.

    Stay strong!
    -Katie Moderator

    1. Hi,

      I'm really sorry you had to go through that. I had a similar experience (before I started getting migraines, actually) with a doctor refusing to do anything else to help me with sleep problems unless I took a particular anxiety drug for at least a month first, and it really sucked. It was the same situation - she gave me zero alternative options and just kept pushing the one drug. Sometimes I wonder if I would have started getting migraines or not if my sleep problems had been addressed effectively back then... Anyway you're not alone and I really hope you can find a new doctor soon.

      I've linked to a video below that was really eye-opening for me regarding why doctors sometimes push specific medicines so much. Unfortunately money talks, and pharmaceutical companies spend a lot on getting doctors to prescribe their products. It's important to be aware of, and I would be suspicious of any doctor that's really pushing one medicine at you instead of giving you multiple options and openly and honestly discussing the side effects of each. (The video is done by comedian John Oliver - apologies if his humor isn't to everyone's taste but he explains the issue really, really well):

      Also, your doctor is totally wrong about food not playing a role in your migraines. You know your body better than anyone, so if you feel like foods/digestive issues are causing your migraines, you're probably right. I don't know if you've tried a migraine elimination diet yet, but if you haven't that would be a good place to start ( Just keep in mind that food triggers can be really different for different people and you may have some that aren't on most of the 'food trigger' lists - for example, sugar can be a trigger for me and a couple other people I know. And I totally agree with the person above about finding a different specialist to work on digestive issues with.

      Also, I don't know if you have access to a naturopathic doctor, but a big part of their philosophy is how everything in the body is connected, whereas in conventional medicine they usually just want to treat one part of the body or one set of symptoms at a time, and treat every health issue as separate instead of connected. If you can find a naturopathic (or ayurvedic) doctor they might be able to provide some insight into how those things are connected that a regular doctor might not.

      Good luck and I hope you can find a better doctor that can help you!

      1. @luonnotar6,
        You gave some great advice and I absolutely LOVE the John Oliver piece. He's hysterical and sadly he's right.

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