pennych
I've started a side job (once a week) in addition to my regular job.
I already told my boss I want to work 4 - 5 hrs per shift, however I've been asked to do a 6.5 hr shift (this job requires standing for these hours) My concern is that when I get a migraine I can not work for that length of time. What do you say to your boss in this case?
Cheryl Picerno Moderator
pennych, that's a great question. Have you disclosed you have a neurological disease called migraine to your new boss yet? It's a very personal decision. You can explain as much as you feel comfortable with based on what your boss is willing to receive from you. They may be a person who understands the impact and burden of migraine disease. You never know. Working with migraine disease may mean you will need some flexibility and grace while you attempt to manage your symptoms during an attack. If the business has a Human Resources department it is a good idea to let them know your needs as well for documentation purposes. You have many options to explore based on what your needs will be. Here are some links to have a look that may be helpful to you.
https://migraine.com/forums/do-you-work-with-migraines-share-your-experience-here
https://migraine.com/living-migraine/work-fmla-experience
I hope this helps. Let us know how you do moving forward. Warmly, Cheryl migraine.com team
pennych Member
Thank you Cheryl, I will check the links you provided. The job is at a small family business, ice c ream and cookie shop so there is no HR staff. What do I say to ephasis that at the initial interview I asked for a 4 - 5 hr shift?
Cheryl Picerno Moderator
pennych Member
Thank you Cheryl, your reply is much appreciated!
Melissa Arnold Community Admin
pennych Member
Hi Melissa, Thank you for following up. Yes, I sent my boss a text yesterday, I did reiterate (as Cheryl advised) that in the interview I mentioned, I can work up to a 5 hr shifts due to the times when I have my migraines and take medication, need to power through my shift. I gave him 2 options as to when I can work. He replied with " I understand" and chose one of the work times I suggested. Wow, what a surprise!
On a more personal note, I've also been reading that early childhood trauma can cause migraines. I don't know how much research has gone into this study, the link below. The feelings that came up with having to confront my boss is the same feelings as was my relation ship with my parents. Never knowing how they will react and it was like walking on egg shells. I mostly received a negative response with any of my communication with them. And it seems that I had the same body sensations, in this case, anxiety, stomach upset, and this whole ordeal triggered a migraine
https://mantracare.org/therapy/ptsd-trauma/migraine-ptsd/#:~:text=Migraine%20and%20PTSD%20are%20two%20conditions%20that%20are,lead%20to%20better%20treatment%20options%20for%20both%20conditions
Cheryl Picerno Moderator
Melissa Arnold Community Admin
Your thoughts about trauma and eggshells are fascinating to me. You seem to be very self-aware, which is a wonderful trait to have. It's true that emotional experiences and physical symptoms can exist in a feedback loop, and it could be a part of your unique migraine patterns, for sure. Have you ever considered therapy? I am a huge proponent of mental healthcare because it really is all connected -- and at the very least, having someone to listen and support you in a non-judgmental way can be a great comfort for people living with chronic conditions.
I also want to recommend that book "The Body Keeps the Score," which talks about the impact of emotional trauma on our physical health. I haven't read it yet, but it's well respected and has come up in previous conversations on this site. I believe our patient leader
Wishing you all the best at work and glad we can be a helpful resource for you! -Melissa, migraine.com team