teasing - help please
Quite simply, this is like the childhood bully. My husband and oldest daughter (a doctor!) brush off putting me down for my migraine as "oh we were just teasing". And they are mean. "You don't do anything, you are useless, etc, you are whiney, you just want to get out of doing anything". When I tell them to stop, its either gaslighting with we never said that or "oh we were just teasing". Any suggestions on how to make them stop. My youngest son is the only one that helps with a box of crackers and 7up. I don't want to be around them anymore, it makes me so sad. My husband stubs his toe and we are all on high alert to change his bandages, put a pillow under his foot, etc. Help. I don't want to be in this family any more. I'm getting severe depression.
This is such a hard situation to be in, Lisa, and also one that's deeply personal in how you decide to approach it. I'm assuming you simply asked them and it didn't work -- you may need to use stronger words, like, "This teasing is really hurtful to me and I'm not going to let you treat me that way." Then you need to decide what comes next. Maybe that's leaving the room or taking a break from communicating with the ones who don't live with you. It's tougher with your husband. I know I've said it before but I would encourage you to work with a therapist to figure out the best way to handle all of this. You deserve to be loved, supported and respected by the people around you. I'm sure all of that negative treatment isn't helpful for your migraine, either! We are here to support you in whatever you think is best. -Melissa, team member
Thank you! One course of action I did take was just a list if "these are the things I cant help you with". I.e., cleaning with toxic smelly chemicals, riding in your car (I have to drive or I get nauseous), list goes on and with a disclaimer that I might make plans and have to cancel. That's the way it is. I'm not making what I have, so if you have questions, LOOK IT UP. No more advice. Everything online with an ounce of credibility will tell you fresh air, sunshine, and running marathons are not cures. I think they pushed me to the brink, maybe a good thing. No more me whining, people pleasing. Funny thing. We live on a hill that lots of bikers like to peddle up. Amazon employee and I were watching them and I said I feel like a slacker. He said why, bet there is something you can do they can't. I know you can. Kind words. So easy to say and so uplifting. So just remember, we all got something we can do and excel at, and they can't. No put down, just dont put down yourself. Love to all my migraine friends, we rock. No rolling please, makes me nauseous.😂
